What is Love and What Should I Look For?

          I don’t speak upon Relationships and Love in my blog post as much as I would like to. This subject isn’t something I have been an expert on over the years but after I thought about things, no one is an expert at this subject. Relationships and Love are all a matter of opinion. No one relationship is the same, it’s impossible for that to be. There are too many factors to consider when it comes to two people uniting to become “one”. Genuine love is amazing in a relationship and amazing to see. This post has everything to do with whom you choose to have a relationship.

          The biggest thing that we all must realize is that there will be failure in your life with relationships and especially intimate relationships. I hear most people change their character within a relationship after it has gone bad or they’ve been hurt by the person they are in the relationship with. I am sorry but life will destroy you if you change after every bad relationship. You will not be recognizable to yourself and everything will be in question in your life. STOP letting bad break ups defeat your spirit and your character. That person does not deserve that credit and power over you. How in the hell can you leave a bad relationship and then let it stay with you for the rest of your life? You let this stay with you by completely altering your approach to future relationships or being too sheltered. This then causes you not to be open for something new and great. You then have two personalities going on for the rest of your life and this can become a stressful. If you can’t be the same with your friends, family, and significant other then something is greatly wrong there. You must be yourself always.

          When you are free and fun with friends but anxious and a stick in the mud with your partner, how can you have a successful relationship? I need all people to create your own rules and values for your relationships. There is no right or wrong way to love, it’s just your way. No one should have influence on your relationship but you and your partner. Social media, friends, family, nor strangers should influence your wants and expectations within a relationship. In my opinion, your partner should be your BEST FRIEND and when I say that I want you to compare how you approach both relationships. You can’t be fun and full of life with your best friend but tamed and calm with your partner. One Saturday you go out with your best friend and you are dancing at the bar and drinking alcohol like a fish. The next Saturday you party with your partner and you have one drink and stand and watch. This isn’t healthy at all.
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          I want all to be yourself in the relationship and if who you are isn’t accepted then you should move on. STOP adjusting certain character traits for a relationship, STOP being with someone for financial reasons, STOP getting in relationships because you’re lonely, and STOP being with someone just because they are attractive.  Have some damn substance in your relationship! Does this person totally accept your mind, body, and soul? Does this person uplift, motivate, and inspire you? Is this person up for change and growth within the relationship because it’s inevitable in LIFE? Let the questions asked be your foundation for the relationship that you are in. That other shit is superficial bullshit that does not hold up long. Before all the above, make sure you love yourself before you can give love.
 
Written By: Ronald A. Wilson