​          I wanted to write a letter to the most important and powerful being walking the earth, and that is the WOMAN. I wanted to write a letter to women to let them know I respect and recognize their power, but I don’t think that women recognize their power. I know that most women will think that I don’t know what in the hell that I am talking about, but this is just my adult observation.  I watch so many amazing women let other human beings stunt their growth in this life, and let’s not forget EMOTION. People and emotions have gotten in the way for far too long and it bothers me that it continues. Stop sacrificing your life for others, and that goes for family and friends. There is a balance that can be established for yourself and others. YOU are important and should not include others feelings before your own all the time. Your children get older and leave and then you’re trying to discover yourself at a late age. That is a ridiculous way to handle your life and the years that has passed can’t be retrieved. Make time for yourself. There is a reason the double standard, and marriage exist. The sad part is most women have not fought hard enough to change this.
          Double standard is a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups. Women have suffered from this before I was born. Men can have sex with as many people as they choose and be labeled as a “pimp”, “player”, “suave”, and so on. Men can date an older woman and not be called a gold digger. If a man is without child as an adult it’s normal, but if a woman doesn’t have a child something is greatly wrong. A man who speaks his mind is showcases leadership skills, but a woman is bossy and arrogant. Now the double standard is applied to men as well but they don’t hold us back from being leaders or not judged as much as the woman. Why are these rules in place and how have the stayed so damn relevant in life? Women let the double standard stop them from attempting to be who they are and do as they please. Women live by these rules and must conform to fit in for the most part. Do you know that all these DUMB ASS rules can be broken, they are not against the law? Not all women are meant to be mothers, some women genuinely like older men, and speaking your mind as a woman is A OK. Women, you do realize this bullshit was created to keep you in check without physical force. You do realize that these rules keep you enslaved to men, along with physical dominance. There is a reason that there are many more derogatory names for women than men. Who do you think made all this bullshit up, MEN made all this shit up and you followed. THINK AND DO AS YOU PLEASE!!
          I think marriage is amazing, but it was not intended for a special bond and for love. The cave man mentality about marriage will forever be around, and that is to enslave the woman and show ownership. This mentality is relevant but not as dominant as it was in the past. I honestly think the world would be a better place if women were in charge but the double standard has ruined that in many cases. Women are more caring, compassionate, understanding, and open-minded. I honestly have said “that a woman running the world now would be a scary place”. I say that because I know that they have not recognized their power and how all revolves around them. Women are the world’s biggest consumer, which helps push the economy. Men buy cars to look good for women, Cheerleaders are at the games for men, men do all they do for women’s attention. Men have no purpose without women in the world, but that might not be as true for men. It’s time to recognize and move forward while giving all the MIDDLE FINGER. Men are afraid of you. Look at the history. Women were last to get voting rights in America for a reason. Be amazing and inspire as some of you are now but the movement can be greater.

        Society, per the dictionary is “the aggregate of people living together in a more or less ordered community”. My definition of “society” is much different than the dictionary. Society in my opinion, is most people that live in a safe little bubble that base their actions on what others think. I would first like to say FUCK society and all that you stand for. I reject you and your ignorance to life and I wish you would lose your idealistic thoughts. I have friends and family that are part of society and there is a reason information from me to them is scarce. Society will make you think that their way of life is the way all should live life. Their way of living is the “perfect” way of living. There is no such thing as “perfect”, just stop please with this word. I didn’t want to go to college, get a “good job”, take a vacation once a year, retire at 65 in my house with the white picket fence. That is the most boring shit I have ever heard in my life. That degree you get does not guarantee a job and puts you in debt up to your head. The “good job” that you get from the degree that you have earned makes pennies compared to the owner of the company. I could not imagine only taking a vacation once a year with the family. Who in the hell wants to work until they are 65 and then retire with bullshit money to live on until you die in less than 20 years. If you don’t buy the house cash then it doesn’t belong to you, IT BELONGS TO THE BANK! You are not a home owner until the documents of ownership are in your possession. You then work until your 65 to pay off a house that you won’t pay off until you die.
 
        The judgement that comes from society for not following the formula listed is amazing to me. Sooo, say I buy a house, then what? Does this make me smarter or show that I am financially stable? The problem is that this is what we think we should be going after in life. Houses are great but they are not for everyone. You then pay a down payment on a house and once the deal is closed you are then congratulated as a “home owner”. So, this means you can do as you please with the house you “OWN”? No, you can’t. If you miss a payment or two, the actual owners of the house (the bank) come and tell you that you must leave their property. So, you are actually a deep in debt “renter”. This “American dream” is real and most follow those guidelines of what the “Dream” entails for most middle-class Americans. Well fuck your middle class and what your “dream” entails.  I am retiring when I feel like it, I don’t need a dumb ass degree to be educated, I don’t want your boring ass desk job or labor job, and keep your white picket fence and your house with the yard. My dream doesn’t necessarily consist of that sequence and I love the route I am taking. My dream is unique and gives me the ability to use my brain to grow and help others in this world. My dream is happiness from giving and watching others enjoy the gift I have given them. I will travel as much as I damn well please until I don’t feel like it anymore. Why are there so many people that work for organizations for years and the outcome is never ownership? So, you are fine with that one position? Where is the ambition, and how in the hell do you get that comfortable? Let’s promote entrepreneurship and total ownership. Leave something behind for others to use many years down the line, because that job you had within that organization for over 50 years, can’t be passed on to your children or even grandchildren.
 
        So, to society I would like to say FUCK YOU and your safe zone and your “Perfect Life”. The shit that is the “dream” does not work for me in my life. There is no such thing as perfection, because of the great variety of minds in this world. Let me live my way and you live yours without judgement. There is only my way not the right way and I will forever fight against “the right way”. Your opinions mean nothing to me, and fear of failure does not exist in my life. Thank you for being who you are and I pray one day you open your mind to all the great and different possibilities. Thank you and FUCK YOU again.

                   ​This title has everything to do with every human being on this planet. Lying is always so much more comforting to our thoughts and in our lives. Excuses are lies, and procrastination is a lie as well. Lying to yourself is just as bad as lying to others. You are hurting and hindering your growth with these type of lies that you tell yourself on a daily basis. Lying has been promoted in society since the beginning of time and most of us follow suit. Why is telling the truth so hard for most people to do? Why is lying so much more easy to do? Telling the truth is hard because we are concerned what others think and how we are viewed. I want to say most lie to not look bad to other people. The sad part is most lie to just to look different in the eyes of other people. The saying “The truth Hurts” is the thing that has ruined many minds and made us all revert from the truth.
 
                Why do we lie to others? Lying starts at home and is taught to you by your parents. They call it not being mean. WOW! So our parents teach us to LIE to a person instead…. Oh I am sorry “Not Be Mean”. That Christmas or birthday gift we receive as children, that we absolutely hate but our parents teach us to “Be Nice” and say we like it and say thank you. This “Little White Lie” eventually turns into cheating and manipulation once we are older. Have you ever noticed when you tell the truth to someone you are either called rude or insensitive? You then hear that your truth and honesty can be delivered in a better way. So me dumbing down my feelings about something is just as bad, and here is a reason why. Your husband or wife cooks a meal and asks you how was the food. Now in your mind it is ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE, but you say “it was good dear, but the seasoning was off a bit”. How does this help either one of you? I will answer that question for you, it doesn’t help you at all. Now the proper answer to that question is “dear that was not good at all” or “IT WAS HORRIBLE”. He or she should then then ask why was it not good and you two progress from there. This can lead to cooking lessons or more meals out of the house but either way is better than eating horrible food daily. I know you are reading this and saying “Ron this is not reality”. It’s not reality because your reality is a LIE. People would accept the truth better and return with a question if the truth was taught to us all as kids. Unfortunately, feelings are hurt and you just apologize the entire time, just because you told the TRUTH.
 
                I know lying is not a good thing to do but it is even worse when you lie to yourself. Lying to yourself leads to you not progressing or completing things. The biggest lie that we tell ourselves is “I will do it later”. Knowing damn well that when later comes nothing will get done. This lie is called procrastination. Lying to yourself about something that you need to get done for a goal that you’ve set is the worst lie. We seem to feel guiltier when we lie to others more than when we lie to ourselves. This has everything to do with self worth and knowing what is important in life. You should be honest with yourself and value the commitment that you make to yourself. We care more about what others think of us instead of what we think of ourselves and that is shameful. Society view of you is not important but how you view yourself should mean the world to yourself. You should never settle and always push yourself beyond the limits that society has set for you. Stop telling yourself that you can change someone. Stop telling yourself that you are happy with a job, but you look forward to Friday at the start of every week (Is it Friday Yet?). These are total and utter LIES. Change your mentality and know that you are greatly important and that lying to yourself only stops your growth as a person.
 
                This post is for you all to understand that the truth is what you ask for but why is it so hard to handle. Regardless of its delivery, you are better off with truth than you ever would be with a Lie. Lying becomes more of a job and hard work to keep going. You lie to yourself about your current relationship and then you’re in front of a judge after being in a failing relationship for over 10 years. Ten years is a ton of wasted time that you could have made useful if you would have just stopped lying to yourself. Small lies you tell to people soon become work in keeping the lie going. Time in life is PRECIOUS and should never be wasted in not being honest at all times. Know your worth and value life. Be honest regardless of the situation PLEASE.  

 
                Drug addiction can be scary and deadly. The look and feel of addiction is devastating to yourself and the people that are around you. Fortunately, there is treatment for drug addiction and also help groups for ongoing assistance to keep sober. I hope all get help with drug addiction and understand that you are not only hurting yourself but also hurting the people around you.
 
                This post; however, has nothing to do with crack, heroin, meth, or any other physical drug that leads to addiction. This has everything to do with the drug of negativity that plagues so many human beings walking this earth today. Negativity is the cause of drug abuse, murder of another person and of yourself. When I speak of you murdering yourself from negativity, I don’t mean suicide. I am talking the murder of your mind and your growth in LIFE. It’s everywhere and you experience this addiction on a daily basis. It is killing us all day after day. You speak negative and think negative thoughts and don’t even realize it sometimes.
 
That Monday morning awakening has to be the most negative time for any 9-5 working person in this world. I am sure you knew some co-worker was going to get on your nerves at work today. There is never a park close to the place that I am going to. I never win anything! I hate my job, I just can’t lose this weight, I will never get that promotion, and so on and so on…. How do we get this negative and why don’t we realize how powerful the words and thoughts that we speak and think are? It is a condition that is given to you from birth for most people. Once you are of age to know better and think for yourself, you should then change your thinking and speaking. In order to change these thoughts, you have to reach out for help and acknowledge that you do have a problem (addiction). Just like a drug addict, you are more than likely surrounded by other negative addicts. There is no treatment center for negativity so this process of kicking your habit is much different from a rehab.
 
                Rehabilitation of the mind is going to take you on many mental roller coasters and will seem like an impossible feat. This process can be helped with listening to positive people and changing your surroundings. Start reading great and inspirational literature, make your social network feeds reflect what you want in your mind, listen to great speakers, and control your controllable and what you can’t control understand the results and be at peace with just that. I get up every morning with a smile on my face and just speak out loud that I am grateful for all I have and all that will come to me in the near future. I don’t watch the news; I listen to music I love throughout the day. I listen to great motivational speakers on the ride to work and through the day. Every time I open my mailbox I know there is a check in there. It has not appeared yet but I am sure it will.
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My happiness derives from not giving a damn what others are doing or what they are thinking. I am in control of my life and I want all to be in full control of their minds and spirits. Let’s break this addiction and bring others out of addiction and become better for the world to become better as well. I love all and want all to love themselves and one another. Being negative will not get you where you want in this life, and being positive isn't going to deliver right away sometimes but being persistent and confident in yourself and your thoughts will prosper.

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.