This is something that I try and stay away from but hey why not write about it. Kevin Hart cheated. Funny man Kevin Hart was caught cheating on his “Rib” wife Eniko Hart. I don’t know what happened or how it happened but something happened. Kevin has been handling his fame gracefully and intelligently up until this point. He has had small issues that he’s handled and were eventually swept under the rug. Kevin Hart’s character and his work as an actor and comedian has been in the limelight for quite some time now. His character and work has also been greatly admired, but there are some questions that I have behind his cheating.
                                                                  Why?
 
          Kevin, why get married? Why do men get married and then cheat? Just keep the boyfriend and girlfriend status going. It has been known an understood in business, that having a wife or husband in business is better for the image. There will never be a President of the United States of America that has a relationship status of single anytime soon, I think. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with being single in a political position but politicians and society just wouldn’t allow it. Business and business relationships go to the next level when the meeting includes the spouses, and they like each other. Why does this matter? The spouses never really have a say in the business between the two, but you must meet the wife or husband. Kevin, shut the hell up. You have been all over social media and have done tons of interviews bragging on your wife and how she is “everything” to you and how she is your “soulmate”. You opened all doors for the bullshit that you are facing right now. Too much exposure leaves you open for criticism, opinions, and people that want money from you. I mean, I am writing a post about it and I don’t have a clue of who you are or what your about personally. Keep most of your life to yourself and between your family.

                                                         Motive.
 
          The apology was dumb and should have been kept private. I understand why he did it, smart PR business move. Beat the video to the public and hopefully gain some sympathy to eventually have the video die out. This may be a move for his new comedy special. New controversial material will create eager people dying to know why and what you did wrong and laugh at your pain, all pun intended. The world knows Kevin exposes his business on stage and majority of it is hilarious. I would definitely watch to see what really happened, even though it will be a watered-down version of the truth. No one can judge Kevin for what he has done now or what he may do again in the future. He has to deal with this all on his own.
 
          What I do want to say is that if it isn’t broken don’t try and fix it. Stop marrying and having kids with women for your own selfish ass reasons. Stay her boyfriend and keep the drama and humiliation at a lower scale, and please don’t bring kids into the relationship. Monogamy, it isn’t for everyone and it’s hard to admit because society and some religions says its wrong to be non-monogamous, but do what you feel in your heart is best for you and spare yourself the drama. This will first take you being honest with yourself and then honest with your companion. Live up to your expectations and disregard the worlds expectations of you and for you.

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

 
          I am currently in Murfreesboro Tennessee in a Residence Inn Marriott hotel. My residence is in Miami Beach Florida. YES, Miami Beach Florida. I just moved there this past April of 2017. It has been my dream to move in the exact area that I currently live in and couldn’t imagine starting my Florida living anywhere else. After 8 long years of trying to accomplish the goal of moving to Miami Beach, here comes a BBW named Irma. Hurricane Irma is set to start its destruction of Miami and Florida Saturday September 9, 2017 and ending the afternoon of September 10, 2017.  This is set to be a category 5 hurricane with wind speeds of 185 mph. Some of her destruction has been seen and felt in the Caribbean as of this week. I chose to move 3 blocks west of the Atlantic Ocean in a first-floor apartment facing the street. I have been trying to move to this area for the past 8 years and the year I do get the opportunity to move there, here comes hurricane Irma.

          Why now? Why is this happening to me? Who is to blame for all of this? What did I do to deserve this? All the questions start immediately upon knowing that evacuating my home is necessary. The questions come first, then anger, and then the depression. All this shit happens fast and can hit you all at once. This can be devastating to a person’s psyche if the correct mental conditioning has not been practiced. The Hurricane hasn’t even happened in Florida and all these things have gone on in my mind. I give myself some hours or a day to feel this way and a day being the maximum amount of time to have these thoughts and feelings. Once that maximum time passes it is time for me to GET OVER IT and keep going. Dwelling on the circumstances and being depressed will get me NOWHERE fast. Being depressed and sad is such a waste of energy and time, and will soon affect you physically. Those feelings affect your body and health as well and multiplying problems are not good for the current circumstances.
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          Irma, I welcome you with un-opened arms and I will be eager to say goodbye to you. I know this is your season and you usually come to visit and destroy lives with your natural power. So many people have warned me about you possibly visiting and I wasn’t scared then I am not scared now. I could give a damn about what you break or destroy. That shit doesn’t own me or motivate me in life. My motivation and inspiration in life is greater than materials and “stability”. I am mentally stable and comfortable with who and where I am in life. Florida is where I live and it will take a bit more to scare me off than some wind and flooding. Do you know life is difficult with or without you? Do you know that you aren’t forever and that life goes on after you? You will be forgotten soon after and things will go back to normal and Hurricane Irma will Pass. So, this letter that I write to you in my hotel room in Murfreesboro Tennessee is to let you know that I will be home soon and I am already over your existence.

          There is nothing you can do about natural disasters. You just make sure you’re prepared mentally and physically. If you are in the area where the hurricane is set to land then you need to make sure you have the proper shelter and that you have enough food and water. Prepare your home for the wind and flooding if you do decide to leave your home for a safer area or if you decide to stay. Control what you can and don’t worry about what you can’t control. Keep smiling and living because there is LIFE after disaster. Hurricane Irma will Pass!

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

       Why and how did this all start? This rallying, fighting, and death has happened over the removal of a statue? The statue of Robert E. Lee is a direct insult to Black Americans and minorities in America. Robert E. Lee was a general in the confederate forces and of course a slave owner. Lee was very mean and cruel with his slaves and encouraged his overseers to severely beat slaves that attempted to escape from his plantation, according to past documentation. He was a great white man for white confederates, but for African Americans, Minority Americans and some White Americans he is a repulsive individual. The statue should be removed from the park immediately and in fact, should have never been created. His name was removed from a high school in Houston with a large Latino population, and renamed as Margaret Long Wisdom High School. A Gen. Robert E. Lee statue was removed from the Lee Circle in New Orleans under a 2015 City Council vote. The park where the statue is stationed in Charlottesville, Va., has been renamed to Emancipation Park. The Charlottesville statue removal has been met with a counter suit and white racist protesters, that want to stop the removal of the statue.
 
       The Robert E. Lee statue in Charlottesville, Va., went up in 1924. A year later, the U.S. Congress voted to use federal funds to restore the Lee mansion in the Arlington National Cemetery. This statue has been in its place for 93 years and now it is the center of all media and American conversations. People have died and been injured in the overall protest of the potential statue removal. The white racists decided to protest and file a lawsuit to stop the statue removal. White racists decided to rally to yell and scream but why were there counterdemonstrators? People must understand that fighting fire with fire isn’t always the answer. Let them protest and look like fucking idiots, that’s how their protest should have been handled. If no one records it or calls the media, then there is nothing to be talked about regarding their rally. It’s upsetting to even know that they can protest, but let’s get the verdict of the lawsuit before we fight back. Now people have died and been injured and there is possibility that the statue can remain in its current location.
 
       Racism is alive and was alive before Trumps inauguration. It was alive before the black lives matter movement began and will be around while human beings exist. I want us to pick our battles wisely and fight when it’s time to fight. Three people have died due to this dumb protest about a damn statue. I know the pain runs deeper than the statue and that’s understood. There are bigger issues going on today and they start in our own communities. Let’s start fighting the gang violence and senseless murders in our communities first. I can bet my life that there have been more minorities hurting one another than white hate crimes against minorities. Let’s fix ourselves before we battle another race. This does not mean don’t fight against racism but at least put up the same fight in your own communities. Bless all fighting against racist assholes in Virginia. 

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

             
                      Detroit is the most powerful racially centered movie I have ever seen in my life, and I have seen them all. I cried on the escalator as I left the theater. I had no words for hours after the film that lasted 2 and a ½ hours. The film was long but had me running through many different thoughts. Life is already hard to understand, but the things that happen in this life make it harder to understand. The question of WHY, was all my brain could come up with during the film. Why are we expecting to change others first, instead of changing ourselves first? Why so much hatred to a person of another color or culture?
 
                 Why do black people burn down and loot things from their own neighborhoods? If a child gets in trouble and is sent to his or her room, and once in the room the child destroys the room and throws some of the things out of the window. What is the outcome for that child from a sensible parent? That parent will make that child clean that room and whatever that was thrown out the window is now lost. If a child wants to hurt his or her parents for being disciplined or mistreated, shouldn’t the child destroy some of the parent’s precious things?  If the child destroys all the good china, breaks all the electronics, and steals all jewels, the effect would be greater. If black people are angry at how they are being treated, then you must hurt the pockets of the people that are mistreating you. Don’t loot your neighborhoods, loot theirs. Stop shopping at their establishments, stop going to their sporting events, and don’t use their products. Money is the only thing that will affect racism and social issues. Marching won’t work unless the disturbance is significant and consistent. Speeches don’t work unless there is change that comes after the speech from the people that are in the audience. Imagine what would happen if black and brown people stopped buying and supporting outside of their race and culture. The change starts and ends with MONEY!
 
              There is NO justice externally before internally. Stop expecting a conviction to make you feel better. The only justice is within your mind and spirit. No man walking this earth can give you TRUE justice. Your child is murdered by a police officer that is white and your child is a minority. The cop goes to trial and is convicted of murder and sentenced to life in prison. What does this do for you after he is convicted? He goes to jail and gets three hot meals a day and a bed for the rest of his life and you must live without your child for the rest of yours. You both have life in prison at that point if inner peace isn’t established. His imprisonment is of the physical and mental state and yours is of the mental and possibly physical also. The only way to create change is to change ourselves. STOP SELLING AND DOING THEIR DRUGS. STOP USING THEIR FIREARMS. STOP STEALING AND KILLING YOUR OWN RACE AND ANY OTHER RACE. Stop gangbanging for drugs and neighborhoods and create untraditional “gangs” to uplift the community and support one another. If you stop giving them a reason to come in your neighborhoods from 9-1-1 calls then the attacks against minorities MAY POSSIBLY go down. I know some of the things are unpreventable but some effort must be made to change things and we can’t expect them to make the change for minorities.

            This is not hate teaching. This is education to get the change that is desired in this world. Change won’t happen until it starts within first. You can not change the way someone treats you until you treat yourself better. Support each other first and then we can support others. You don’t have to be mean or angry to make these changes. We are all ONE and I know one day that it is possible that racism will lose its greatness, but it has to be some effort put in your own neighborhoods and cultures.

Written by: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

Likes Aren't = Love
 
Hello everyone and I hope you all are offended and or want to change how you approach life after reading this post. Who am I to judge? I am absolutely no one that should judge anyone and this is not a judgmental post but a post that I hope gets you to living and appreciating the “moment” more.
 
What is the purpose of social media? Social media - websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. The previous sentence is the definition that populates when you google the definition of social media. My definition of social media, based on what I have seen and experienced is much different. Social media is a platform for individuals that need attention to receive attention. Now ask yourself what does it mean to you? What do you use the websites and or apps for and why use social media? Is there direction and purpose behind the use of social media for you? Has likes become LOVE for you? The one most important thing in life that every human being seeks and needs is love. Love trumps all. Love is wanted more than money, material things, and any other thing that you could think of that I can’t. Why is it part of your DAILY life? Why is it a priority? Can you go to an event and not update social media with where you are? Can you go a full day and not pick up a device to see what others have posted? The average person will spend nearly two hours (approximately 116 minutes) on social media every day, which translates to a total of 5 years and 4 months spent over a lifetime. No one can afford to lose 5 years of their life doing absolutely nothing. This second to television, which we spend 7 years and 8 months watching in a lifetime. I just took 13 years of your life away from you. You can’t waste that much time and expect to be of any substance to yourself or the people around you.
 
Most millennials turn to social media for love and care when they need it. I think it’s good to prevent devastating things from happening but it should be the last place you turn to for love. Likes doesn’t mean love. It is a button people click or double tap when something peaks their interest. This does not mean that they care for you and damn sure doesn’t mean they love you. Stop giving it more power than it should have in your life. It has become a necessary evil for the majority of the world and that is understood. The things that I have witnessed with my eyes have been remarkable. Why is your break-up happening because of social media and on social media? I shouldn’t know what time you arrive at work, where you work, what time you take lunch, where you go for lunch, and what time your work day ends. I shouldn’t know where your entire family lives including you. You have to keep something for yourself, I mean SOMETHING for you. Not everyone can be a social media comedian or star. We all get it, you are a gangsta and you have all the guns and drugs.  I won’t touch on the social media models, that is enough for a post of its own. Give something more than likes and views. Sale something, market something, inspire and or motivate, inform and educate, or just spread positivity and

LOVE. We must do more than what is being done.
This post is to have all evaluate the current time and cherish the current time. It is too short to waste it doing things of no value to yourself. Life shouldn’t be too serious but it shouldn’t be thrown away either. Create a healthy balance to change your life and others around you. Don’t do away with social media but utilize it wisely and timely. 

​Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

Bet on Yourself has been a saying for a very long time but there is a man by the name of Emory “Vegas” Jones that is living and breathing this quote. It is not something he just live by but it’s something he is giving to the world. Emory is a great friend of Mogul Shawn Carter, but he is far more than that. His spirit and laid-back energy surprisingly separates him from just that connection and has become great inspiration for myself. I sent him a message on IG to thank him for what he is doing and the energy he gives to the world and he responded with the praying emoji hands. That little emoji meant a lot to me and that small gesture says a lot about his character as well.
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How many of us bet on ourselves? Do we believe in ourselves or are we looking for others to do that for us? The quote “Bet on yourself” speaks volumes and touches all, not just hip hop, African Americans, or people from the culture. It is telling you to be confident in yourself and love yourself. I see many people looking for validation from some one else. This validation may never happen and keep you from going after what it is that you want. Some people will not go on to the next step unless their parents approve of the person. I have seen people not move far in their chosen career path because their mentor didn’t approve of their work. When you are gambling, and you’re in Vegas at that blackjack table and you are betting, it’s just you, taking those chances with your money. If you lose it all then you just lost your money, but if you win it all then you have friends and companions all around. This life is a gamble and your decisions can sometimes cost you significant things in life. You can lose friends, family, money, and TIME. When you bet on yourself the loses don’t matter. Losing comes with the territory of gambling. You can’t win everything and if you did Las Vegas wouldn’t exist, HAHAHA. I know that if I gamble I want the reward to be great. The sad part about great reward is that the risk must be just as great. I know you’re thinking well “What about the lottery”? The chances are slim of you ever winning and no one wins on the first try. I have known people to play the lottery weekly for decades and have never won. So, if someone pays $25 a week and has been playing the lottery for 30 years and finally wins on the 31st. This person has invested $39,000 in lottery tickets. I don’t know about you but to me that is a significant amount of money to gamble on a not sure thing.
 
You must be sure of yourself when you bet on yourself. You must be secure in who you are and the decisions that you make. You can only gain this confidence in yourself with experience in life. You should see the world, interact with others, and discover yourself. Now this doesn’t seem like it’s a bet if you are sure of yourself. Well a sure thing is always the best thing to bet on. The likelihood of you winning is greater and the reward is just as great. Take a chance on yourself and go after your dreams and goals. Know that you are smart enough and creative enough to make it happen for yourself. No one will be as confident in you as you are in yourself. No one will by into you if they don’t feel you are confident in yourself. Life is a blackjack table and you have a million dollars in chips, are you going all in? You know your hand and you know the odds. I’m letting it all ride with no reservations. 

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

I want to start this with a HAPPY FATHERS DAY to all the men in the world. This blog post is for the fathers of the world. NO, a mother is not a father and could never take the place of a father, and no man can be a mother. Just like most things Americans celebrate, Father’s Day originated in Europe in the Middle Ages. No, it is not a hallmark holiday and neither is Mother’s Day. It was originated on March 19th as the feast day of Saint Joseph, and this means it is a Catholic holiday. It’s a shame what we celebrate and don’t have a full understanding of what it is that we celebrate. I say that because I always thought it was a hallmark holiday, but it’s not.

           I would like to acknowledge all the fathers that have played a significant role in their child’s life. I know men are looked at as optional and not an automatic parent, especially in the African American culture. Us as men must make it a priority to be involved regardless of the relationship with the mother. There are some fathers that live with there children and see them daily but will not be a  parent the child. To the men that run away from their responsibilities you know what kind of karma comes with that decision. I want to let the men know that feel as if this holiday is unimportant to all that aren’t fathers, stop worrying about it. Father’s Day does not make you a father and nor is it a day for rewards for a job that should be done with passion and disregard of other’s opinions. This is just a day for the world to generate extra profits. Holidays are all about the mighty dollar bill. Stop letting the non-acknowledgement from others make you feel upset and unappreciated. You must be secure in yourself and the positive impact that you have on your child’s life. The people that walk this earth are human as you are, and can not and should not affect how you feel as a man and as a father, if you’re genuine.

           Ladies, girls, women, or however you would like for me to address you. This day is not a day to put yourself on a pedestal in a one parent household and you being the primary parent. As I said before you have a special quality as a mother and a man has a special quality as a father. No one person can fill the void of either. This man that is not playing the part that you think he should is not your problem. The man must deal with that mentally and no matter what you say nothing hurts more than what is in his mind daily. Stop pouring so much energy into bashing men that you made the choice to sleep with and have a child with. Stop dwelling in the past because the child is greatly affected by your sorrow and pain, even if you don’t “show” it physically. The most important person or persons involved in the relationship is the CHILD. Men should be in the child’s life but if he decides to leave and not be involved, that is not your problem, it then becomes his.

          To the women that use your child as a pawn in some sick fucking game of retaliation for the relationship ending, or a man not doing as much as you feel he should, you need to GROW THE FUCK UP!!!!!!!! The bitterness that you have towards him is your problem not his. The relationship ended, now move on and let him be in the child’s life as he should. Men must do the same. You can not use the child to go back and have sex or manipulate the woman for your own personal gain. Women stop turning to child support to hurt the man. I say that only if he is giving and helping support the child financially. If he is financially stable and just refuses to give enough or anything at all then take his ass to court. Child support was created to help mothers support the child or children that they had with a man that did not want to help. This is not a fucking tool to control a man. Any man that wants to spend time with his child should be allowed to, no questions asked.
         
          If you can’t tell by the words and punctuation used, I have direct experience with certain circumstances of being a father. Relationship ends and then the visits are controlled and more money than before is needed. Stop buying cars, self-pampering, or doing things beyond your financial ability. That child support is for the security of the child not for you. Being concerned with whom the child will be around is irrelevant. You would have a child with him but not trust the decisions made with the child, that doesn’t make sense at all. This must stop and the fact that the child suffers the most is never acknowledged. No one cares about all your excuses and that is for men and women. Be a parent to the child and always put their best interest at hand. The best interest of the child is to be involved with Mother and Father. Every day is Father’s Day and every day is Mother’s Day. Put your damn EGO’s aside and be parents for god’s sake. Stop expecting praise and worship because of a holiday. Give your greatest effort to the child and be their HERO.
 
Written By: Ronald A. Wilson.

​          I would like to talk about the city that I was born and raised in and that is Chicago. The violence has been displayed all over the media, and talked about by high level politicians. Chicago is an amazing city with people that are amazing. Chicagoans love their city and are proud of their city. I was born and raised on the west side of the city. I lived on the north side as well and have great experiences with the city of Chicago. We have an amazing skyline, University of Chicago is #3 ranked in national universities, home of former President and First Lady the Obamas, and ranked #41 out of 313 cities in the United States for its diversity.
          The few things that I listed, and I am very sure there are many more things that I could have listed that are not mentioned in the media, why is this the case.  Why is the media primarily focused on the murder rate in Chicago? Here are the numbers dating back to the year 1990. 1990: 851, 1991: 928, 1992: 943, 1993: 855, 1994: 931, 1995: 828, 1996: 796, 1997: 761, 1998: 704, 1999: 643, 2000: 633, 2001: 667, 2002: 656, 2003: 601, 2004: 453, 2005: 602, 2006: 471, 2007: 448, 2008: 513, 2009: 459, 2010: 436, 2011: 435, 2012: 516, 2013: 441, 2014: 432, 2015: 492, 2016: 762. As you can see from the years 1990 – 1996 the murder rate was higher than our last year’s murder rate. The difference in the early 90’s and the year 2016 is SOCIAL MEDIA. 1992 had a staggering 943 HOMICIDES. This year alone has 181 more homicides than 2016. The early 2000’s were just as bad but of course social media was not as relevant. 2016 was the highest murder rate year since 1997. I am not blaming it all on social media but the influence is tremendous.
          The question that the world has right now is how can the homicide rate be lowered all together? The resolution is not in the near future, and the public and the people that live in the city have to realize just that. The media must take what they air into accountability. Social Media only goes so far, once it hits the television the effect becomes greater and reaches national viewers. The individuals that are pulling the triggers are going to take a lot longer to slow down than most think. Jobs, better schools, after school programs will not fix this issue. The issue starts at home with parenting and this is generational. This will take generations to fix an issue this major. Parents in the inner city or what we call the “Ghetto” must invest a bit more time and attention into their child.
          Parents must talk to their child about their lives and days, be in tune with their education, and show love always. Unfortunately, as a parent in the hood, you should invest more effort and time into your child in comparison to a child outside of the ghetto. We as ghetto children are neglected in many ways and surviving becomes our only mission in life. Ghetto life comes with a bunch of excuses and reasons for the violence in our neighborhoods. Parents that are involved in their child’s life are busy providing food, shelter, and clothes for the child. Those things listed become the only and primary involvement that the parent has with the child. It’s a very tough battle and no one is given a book or taught how to be a successful parent. The violence can be lowered if the involvement from the parents in the hood was higher. Take responsibility and educate your child. Their actions are all your responsibility until they are no longer living in your house. You must ask them questions, sit with them from time to time with homework, pop up at the schools and visit the teachers or just see how they act when you are not around, plan weekend fun and educational things. None of what I just mentioned comes with a great cost but it does come with some effort. My opinion will not cure the issue but I feel it will definitely help. Spread love!!

​Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.