What do you want is different from what do you need? There is nothing wrong with having a want in life and going after it. No person needs a Rolls Royce Wraith, but it is necessary that I have one. I could easily get a nice Lexus or even a Mercedes Benz but that is not what I want. It seems far fetched to go after a car that starts at $315,700. Total waste of money to the person that can’t afford it, but that is the car that I like and see myself driving. I have witnessed so many people go after what is in their reach and not after what they really want. I don’t want average or mediocre. I plan to be great and do great things, so I want some great things as well.
I see myself waking up and my bedroom overlooking a beautiful body of water. I see myself driving my black wraith with my logo stitched in the headrest. I see myself writing a check to my aunt to pay the remainder of the mortgage for her home. I see myself placing families in homes and helping educate all on how to achieve their WANTS in life. I will travel the world and give more of my time and efforts to others instead of my finances. My vision is clear. I will achieve what I want with my words, and that is on paper and verbally. 99% of people today are assuming that they will get better. Show me someone that assumes and I will show you someone that is disappointed daily. Create your vision, and live that vision daily. The key to having the things that you want is being grateful for what you have currently.
Why do we let our current circumstances, people’s thoughts, and our minds stop us from knowing and going after what we want? All is possible and it can’t be attained if you don’t first believe it and see it clearly. The judgement of others has now created limits of what we can and can’t have. The greatest thing you can have is an imagination. Have an imagination that goes far beyond your current conditions, and your imagination staying consistent will lead to things aligning for you to have all that you imagine. My greatest image is me helping and changing the world. Oh yes, it sounds cliché but I could give two fucks what anyone else thinks. Love conquers all and I plan on spreading as much of it as I possibly can.
You already know what you want and how you want it. It is very simple, go after it! Stop fearing not getting it right away or being afraid that it may not happen at all. Stop the compromise and the procrastination of what will fulfill your life, and I am not talking about just the material things. The imagination must start with something that will lead to the things that you want in life. If you don’t have any goals, dreams aren’t achievable. There should be a start for there to be a finish. Your passion in life is that start and the finish is the things that you imagine. This vision of your life must be the air you breathe, the food you eat, the water you drink, and in the dreams when you sleep. This almost sounds like an obsession and guess what, it is just that. You must be obsessed about what it is you want out of life. Without obsession, there is now way for success to enter your life. I know it sounds like a negative word but society makes many things sound bad that aren’t. Ignore the BS and embrace the obsession. Tape photos of your obsession all over your home, talk to yourself and others about it, and research it. Become “crazy” about what it is that you want, for you to receive what you want.
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson
I recently made the painting created by Jean-Michel Basquiat that was sold to a Japanese Billionaire for 110 million dollars one of my favorite photos. The photo was used as a draw to the attention of hard work and passion. Basquiat has been dead since August 12, 1988. He died at the age of 27, which is very young for such a great body of work that recognition has evolved over the years. Art, if loved by the elite become valuable over time and especially if the artist is deceased. Art is what you make it and what you value it. Basquiat is quoted “I don't think about art when I'm working. I try to think about life.” Art was therapeutic for Basquiat and a passion of his. The paintings came easily and naturally and wasn’t critic or thought provoked. Basquiat’s paintings have sold for over 500 million dollars to date, and I may be under estimating with that number.
The point being that when you put in the work and have a passion for what you do the success will come. Luck will seem to fall on your side and things will all line up as they should. Basquiat died from a heroin overdose in his art studio in Manhattan New York. This was one obstacle that he could not overcome in his life. He did however overcome great odds against him previous to his drug addiction. Basquiat was born in Brooklyn to a Haitian father and a Puerto Rican mother. Brooklyn in the 60’s was far from gentrified, and that means it was the ghetto and he was a minority on top of that. At the age of 8 Jean-Michel was hit by a car while playing in the street. He broke his arm and had internal injuries, and he eventually underwent a splenectomy. Basquiat parents separated the same year and after five years of living in Brooklyn, he and his 3 siblings moved to Puerto Rico. They lived in Puerto Rico for 2 years before moving back to Brooklyn in 1976. Basquiat is now 16 years of age and being raised by his father. Basquiat’s mother was committed to a mental institution when he was 13, and she was in and out of institutions thereafter.
Basquiat found his passion at a very early age and started his work with very little resources at his disposal. What in the hell is holding you back from starting your passion and working your ass off? I know finding something that you are passionate about seems impossible sometimes but it is easier done than said. What do you love and what do you love to do and not be paid for it? What brings JOY to your life and a smile to your face? Think about these simple things the passion will be revealed. My passion for wanting to help others discover their passion came over time. I would cry tears of joy when I saw someone else accomplish their dreams. I would watch the show undercover boss, and at the end of each episode the undercover boss would give back to his employees in a great way. The bosses would give money and other things to help the individual move forward in life and accomplish their dreams. I couldn’t help but be overjoyed for the person that is receiving the gift and in awe of the person giving the gift. I also would have conversations with individuals that didn’t seem to have an imagination outside of society’s standards. This would greatly bother me and I would find myself wanting more for them than they did for themselves. Me paying attention to those things then turned into me developing my blog and becoming active on social media to deliver my message to the masses. I am now writing a book and continuing with that message through other avenues as well. Pay attention to yourself and be honest with yourself and your passion will be exposed to self.
How in the hell did I waste so much time? Who is to blame for this time wasted? Is it the conditioning and non-teachings of my “parents”? The questions are being asked because regret would run wild in my mind on a regular basis. I am a work in progress with my growth but I still have some things that I am working on mentally. I have regretted a ton of decisions that I made in my twenties and now I am in overdrive to reconcile these decisions. I love my children but having them at that time with the two women that I had them with was not great decision making on my part. The money wasted and time spent working for a company with a low ceiling for growth was a bad decision as well.
Guess what, none of that shit matters now. Regret will not control me or my thoughts currently and especially in the future. I lived with that regret for many years and now I seem to have it under control, but it still will find its way back from time to time. That regret in mind will cause bad decisions in your current life and will affect your future. The key understanding for me is that I can’t go back and change none of the things that I should have made better decisions on. My current mind state is to never say the first question I asked to start this post. I didn’t know who the hell I was or what direction I was heading in at the time and I had no great adult guidance which was partly my fault. I am listening now more than ever and that person I listen to mainly is SELF. My experiences have given me knowledge and understanding to trust myself more than ever. I still have to talk to people and I am willing to receive great advice from people with great experiences as well, but I make the decisions for my life totally.
Now look back and say, “I fucked up” and now move on and fuck the world up. Be the controller of your destiny. Realize your TIME IS VALUABLE and can’t be replaced. Use it wisely and always work on your brand (yourself). Health is wealth and will help extend your time here. Knowledge is power and travel is necessary. Talk to people and discover a new world. Regret is the thing of the past and now it’s time to create a new world. LOVE to ALL.
Written By Ronald A. Wilson.
I wanted to write a letter to the most important and powerful being walking the earth, and that is the WOMAN. I wanted to write a letter to women to let them know I respect and recognize their power, but I don’t think that women recognize their power. I know that most women will think that I don’t know what in the hell that I am talking about, but this is just my adult observation. I watch so many amazing women let other human beings stunt their growth in this life, and let’s not forget EMOTION. People and emotions have gotten in the way for far too long and it bothers me that it continues. Stop sacrificing your life for others, and that goes for family and friends. There is a balance that can be established for yourself and others. YOU are important and should not include others feelings before your own all the time. Your children get older and leave and then you’re trying to discover yourself at a late age. That is a ridiculous way to handle your life and the years that has passed can’t be retrieved. Make time for yourself. There is a reason the double standard, and marriage exist. The sad part is most women have not fought hard enough to change this.
Double standard is a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups. Women have suffered from this before I was born. Men can have sex with as many people as they choose and be labeled as a “pimp”, “player”, “suave”, and so on. Men can date an older woman and not be called a gold digger. If a man is without child as an adult it’s normal, but if a woman doesn’t have a child something is greatly wrong. A man who speaks his mind is showcases leadership skills, but a woman is bossy and arrogant. Now the double standard is applied to men as well but they don’t hold us back from being leaders or not judged as much as the woman. Why are these rules in place and how have the stayed so damn relevant in life? Women let the double standard stop them from attempting to be who they are and do as they please. Women live by these rules and must conform to fit in for the most part. Do you know that all these DUMB ASS rules can be broken, they are not against the law? Not all women are meant to be mothers, some women genuinely like older men, and speaking your mind as a woman is A OK. Women, you do realize this bullshit was created to keep you in check without physical force. You do realize that these rules keep you enslaved to men, along with physical dominance. There is a reason that there are many more derogatory names for women than men. Who do you think made all this bullshit up, MEN made all this shit up and you followed. THINK AND DO AS YOU PLEASE!!
I think marriage is amazing, but it was not intended for a special bond and for love. The cave man mentality about marriage will forever be around, and that is to enslave the woman and show ownership. This mentality is relevant but not as dominant as it was in the past. I honestly think the world would be a better place if women were in charge but the double standard has ruined that in many cases. Women are more caring, compassionate, understanding, and open-minded. I honestly have said “that a woman running the world now would be a scary place”. I say that because I know that they have not recognized their power and how all revolves around them. Women are the world’s biggest consumer, which helps push the economy. Men buy cars to look good for women, Cheerleaders are at the games for men, men do all they do for women’s attention. Men have no purpose without women in the world, but that might not be as true for men. It’s time to recognize and move forward while giving all the MIDDLE FINGER. Men are afraid of you. Look at the history. Women were last to get voting rights in America for a reason. Be amazing and inspire as some of you are now but the movement can be greater.