This topic is not just about intimate relationships. I want to talk about all relationships that you have with relatives, friends, co-workers, and especially intimate also. Relationships play a huge part in your life and can affect many parts of your life. Relationships affect your mental health, physical health, finances, and growth in life. Understand that you have total control over whom you have a relationship with. You don’t have to deal with anyone that you don’t want to except children that are your responsibility. Children didn’t ask you to be here, that was all your choice. The first relationships that you gain are with family and of course as a child you don’t have much say who you want to deal with and whom you don’t want to deal with. The early relationships are what make you up as an adult but you don’t have to keep the unhealthy relationships.
The word FAMILY is thrown around and used loosely and I don’t think many realize that when using the word. Family should help you and should allow you to grow into the person that you want to be with guidance, love, and care. Unfortunately, family can be harmful to you and hinder your growth in life. Once you are an adult and can make decisions for yourself, adjustments need to be made. Don’t allow people to continue to harm you mentally, physically, emotionally, or any other way because they are “Family”. I don’t care what relation that they are to you, no one should be able to mistreat you and get away with it repeatedly. Keep that negative energy out of your life and that goes for mothers and fathers as well. Let’s set the standard high for our self-worth and if “family” don’t value you as they should then the relationship needs to be dialed down for sure. I would never recommend removing the mother and or father relationship totally, depending on how they have affected you. Mental and or physical abuse is not and should not ever be tolerated. Parents can be very negative and judgmental and then disguise it as concern or “Love”. You should only have a conversation with your parents and very significant family members if you do feel judgment or negativity. Addressing this with them should hopefully establish some respect and if not then distancing yourself is key to maintain some type of relationship, but not exposing yourself to negativity in abundance. Love your real family and they aren’t always in the blood line. Keep the positive family relationships and distance all others.
The person that you choose to have an intimate relationship is your responsibility and you should be careful with this choice. The worst part about picking the right person is that the right person may turn into the wrong person over time. The key part is that you recognize that you are not growing together or you’re not capable of growing together. Once the recognition happens you then must make a decision that is best for you and your family. Stop staying for comfort, fear of being alone, and other things that pass or get better over time. No human being is more important than yourself and you must understand that. Why in the hell would you stay in a situation that will bring unhappiness, misery, or stay for someone else? LEAVE!!! Yes, it’s that easy. Please know that you are amazing and can’t expect to grow and be great in life for yourself or anyone else if you are in a TOXIC situation. Excuses will get you nowhere and will have you losing out on precious time. PLEASE stop wasting time trying to fix a situation that CAN’T be fixed. Life is too short to lose years of life to a bad relationship.
I will touch on this topic more in detail in later posts but I Just wanted you to think about certain relationships and if they are enhancing and or motivating you in life. Value your time and your encounters.