Oh, I am stepping in some shit with this topic, but this is why I have a blog. Since race is such a major topic of conversation today, and I have an opinion on the subject. I have decided to write and share with everyone. I honestly think whomever you choose to date is your decision. It is a shame that you’re fearful of how society will view you and your relationship with the person that you chose to love. Well I am here to tell you that I could give a flying superman FUCK about what others think of my dating preference. Regardless of what race you are, date what ever race you shall choose. I can imagine that some people have wanted to try interracial dating but have been hesitant based on the possible reactions.
I am an advocate for interracial dating and I feel everyone should try it, of course if you’re single. I have dated primarily outside of my race for quite some time now. I have heard all the comments, and I have been asked tons of questions of why I have come to this decision. It was not a decision, it is something that just happened. I didn’t reject it and I was open to see how and where it could go. I have learned a lot about myself and other cultures while dating non-African-American women. Black love is beautiful but LOVE in general is a beautiful thing. Limiting yourself in life and relationships will limit your exposure and growth. If you try interracial dating and it’s not for you, then move on and go back to what works best for you. Don’t judge others for whom they decide to spend their time. What you “like” or are attracted to has not worked for you so far so try some other flavors. I used to think that sushi was the nastiest thing anyone could eat, and then I tried it and loved it. It’s funny how we judge things before we even try it. “Don’t knock it until you try it”.
The older generation aren’t greatly acceptant of interracial dating and it’s understood in some ways. Blacks dating whites has always been a struggle in America. My family has questioned my decision based on their past experiences during the civil rights movement and just overall racism. There is a chance that you will not be accepted in the beginning by the parents but that is life. You will not be accepted in a lot of things that you choose to be involved with, but don’t be discouraged by bumps in the road. This is just not a white and black thing. Latin, European, Asian, and Middle-Eastern parents may not be acceptant of you either, and you will have to deal with friends, family, co-workers, and strangers opinions on your relationship. If you weren’t tough or didn’t have a “I don’t give a fuck” attitude before, then interracial dating will definitely help in that area.
Now I would like to make some things clear. Ladies that aren’t African American and are curvy, don’t date black men by default. I have met quite a few women that date black men because black men were more attracted to them then the men within their race. Date whom your attracted to and not just who’s attracted to you. Black men, stop dating outside of your race to “come-up” or “get over”, that shit is played. Black women aren’t the only strong women walking this earth and that stereotype that has been placed on other ethnicities is just dumb. Don’t try interracial dating after a bad break-up. This is cause for a bad experience regardless of race, especially for the person that isn’t scorned. Date someone that you feel you can create an amazing foundation for the future. A solid foundation with love at the center is, support, laughter, inspiration, motivation, understanding, and friendship. All other things are just leaves on a tree, and leaves fall from the tree every fall.
Open your mind and heart and see where it takes you. Don’t limit your interactions and follow what feels right and follow love.
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.