I know you read the title of this post and wonder why would I be so rude to make that statement before the question? Well that statement is directed at me as well as the question. This is how I approach my future success in life. I have removed the fear of failing, and the removal happened when I realized success hasn’t ever existed in my 33 years of living. If I have never been successful, then why in the hell would I ever be afraid to pursue my dreams? I asked myself this question and the reality set in that there is nothing to fear and the cliff that I was standing on didn’t seem so frightening anymore. How could I be scared of something that I have been drowning in since birth.
I didn’t have my own room until I got my first apartment. I never had the best clothes or shoes. There was hardly ever a phone in my house growing up. I had more roaches in my house than any human being could tolerate. I was kicked out of high school the year I was supposed to graduate, even though there wasn’t a chance in hell that I was graduating. I had my first child at the age of 22 with a woman that tried to kill me quite a few times. Best Buy was my employer for 8 years and you can only imagine how great that turned out to be. Never much money in my bank account approaching the next paycheck, if any money at all. I’m living check to check and I have two different women trying to get as much child support as they possibly can. Most of the failure in my life was brought upon myself and some failures given to me from my parents. Failing sucks but once you’re so deep into failure, it just becomes “LIFE”. This is how we relate more to negative things and not the positive. An always optimistic and positive person is called “unrealistic”, “crazy”, and “Dumb”. These words are used due to the comfort level with negativity. When it’s embedded in your life and becomes the “norm”, a positive minded person is treated differently.
I say all of that to say that me pursuing my dreams in an aggressive way over the past year has come with no fear of failure. I am already in failure if I haven’t achieved success. This gray area between failure and success does not exist. Success is doing what you love to do daily with an undying passion. Success has no Monday morning blues, success is full of Joy and happiness, success is freedom and I am not talking about your four weeks paid vacation. You should be doing what is desired in your heart and all that you have dreamt of having. I am not successful yet but I know I will be. I am putting in the effort and actions to accomplish my dreams. My vision board is my locked screen on my cell phone, I speak and feel confident in what I am doing to achieve my dreams, I could care less what others may think, sacrifice has become a staple, and exercising my positive mind with books, speeches, and amazing people has helped keep me inspires and motivated. Your passion is what you’d be doing without currency being the outcome, your dreams are the things that make you tingle at just the thought of them coming true, and if money is the only part of your dream well then the things listed before have to be established first.
Written by: Ronald A. Wilson