This topic has everything to do with your progress in life and or your non-progress in life. Emotions can be the spark to you making an irrational decision at a critical point in your life. I wanted to write about this topic because of the experiences that I’ve had and have witnessed as well. Just like most things in life, emotions have a good and bad side to them. The key thing is keeping them under control and not to influence your actions. Happy emotions can drive you to be too generous, be careless with valuable things, or just go too far with your excitement. Sad or angry emotions can lead to jail, death, hurt, or hurting someone else. Emotions have been made out to be uncontrollable for many people, but I am here to tell you it is extremely easy to control your emotions.
You must know who you are and be self-secure to be able to handle your emotions in this rough and tough life. If you don’t take the time to sit on your ass and get a better understanding for who you are and what you can handle, your ass will be in a very bad situation. Men worst emotion is anger, it always leads to something life changing. The excuse is then “I was angry”. The dumbest thing you can say to a judge, police officer, or someone you hurt mentally or physically is that anger is the reason for your actions. Children sometimes get away with this excuse because they aren’t fully developed and haven’t lived enough life to know anything about controlling emotions. As an adult that excuse doesn’t fly, EVER. The excuse I love the most is “I was drunk” HAHAHAHAH!!! What in the hell do you mean you were drunk? As an adult, you don’t know your limit for alcohol consumption? Sounds like you shouldn’t drink if you have NO self-control with the bottle or even drugs.
Women seem to use their emotions as an excuse for everything. Men use it as well but from my experience women take the “I was emotional” excuse to the next level. Yes, I know “that’s just how women are”. How long is this going to be excusable? I personally think women should rule and own this world but their emotions get in the way of the taking over the world. Men do everything in this world for women, well at least most men. When a guy buys a car the first thing he says is “the ladies are going to go crazy for this”. When he decorates his house it’s for women’s comfort. Getting his hair cut, nice clothes, the good job, working out, and the list can go on forever. I don’t want women to be heartless and lose that nurturing characteristic but stop falling in love with attention, money, material things, or good looks. All those things are great but what is his character and his views on life? I hate to bring this one up but “THAT TIME OF THE MONTH” is one of the biggest excuses for irrational emotions. Stop being angry or sad and then you say “it’s that time of the month”. So, your brain stops working and you can’t control yourself because of this? I honestly think that because it has been said and talked about so much that it is hard not to use it as an excuse for acting irrational.
There is no excuse for acting out of character as an adult. I have nothing but respect for women, mental and emotional dis-orders, and children, but you need to take ownership of your emotions and that goes for men and women. No human being can make you angry, sad, happy, or anything else. Your reaction is all up to you. Stop it with the excuses, because we all know it is bullshit. It may take time but your progress in life depends on it. You will feel better and the feeling of having full control of your life will be amazing. Know that you have self-control and when you find yourself losing it find someone to talk to or whatever your therapy may be. Let’s be great and influential in this life and actually own the one thing we actually own and that’s our mind and body.
Character is the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. I wanted to start with the definition of character so that you have an idea of where this post is heading. I was once lost in the fact that I thought character and reputation were basically the same, but boy was I wrong. Your character is who you are, while your reputation is what others think you are. Being concerned with your character should be your only concern when the two are in discussion. Your character takes years to build and a reputation can happen overnight. The one great thing of the two is that you have full control of your character and what you take into your life. I know that many people judge others and make comments about their character, but don’t understand that they are judging a reputation. Kanye West is a person that I have heard many comments about and believe me they are not nice comments. He has a reputation of being overly outspoken, egotistical, arrogant, rude, inconsiderate, and the list of names goes on and on. People apply labels to individuals but don’t have a clue of who they are internally. The real question and only question should be “WHO AM I?” and not “WHO IS KANYE?”, only he knows that.
I find those questions amazing because a person is so quick to tell you who you are but doesn’t have a damn clue of who they are. The fear of discovering self seems to be a scary thing for most today. The world has given us soooo many things to mask our “character” (reputation) with and of course we all like to play dress up. Halloween is an all year holiday for most and the masks and costumes are getting scarier and scarier. How many people do you see on social media platforms that look like life is GRAND and that they are the happiest people on the face of the planet? Most that I have seen on social media since I have rejoined this year make life look like a piece of cake. You also have some that just need all the sympathy in the world and life is killing them slowly. They are working hard on building a great reputation instead of character. Social media, the media, our peers, and technology have stopped the character building process. The masses are living and existing on their reputation and are mighty fine by just that. I am here to let you know that the people that have given you this reputation could give a damn about your character, and guess who lives with that character? HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! You will live with that character day in and day out, while your reputation builders aren’t concerned with that part of you. The most common answers to questions about someone’s character are “I don’t know” or “I haven’t thought about it”. You, have to take time out to figure these things out or you will die not knowing who you are or having a makeup of yourself.
How do you build character and why do you need to build character? Building character comes over time with discovery, travel, human interaction, and learning. Character is not made over night and it takes you to pay attention and be honest with yourself. Yes, there are people that LIE to themselves. Amazing isn’t it? Honesty will form your morals, and integrity. This is the stuff that you work on when no one is looking and the things that get rewarded in life. There is nothing better than being a walking truth. Knowing that you are completely honest with yourself and your moral bank is over flowing in life brings joy and happiness. Regardless if you live the truth or not, the truth ALWAYS comes out and reveals itself. We are all meant to be different and live to our own standards. Don’t let someone create your character for you and don’t let anyone defeat your character. You are the only CEO of that company (character) and you should treat it as a fortune 500 company. This means don’t let anyone take it from you and don’t compromise yourself for profit. Your self worth has to be worth billions before you can make thousands. Be great and vulnerable enough to discover yourself.
Written By Ronald Anthony Wilson.