When it rains it pours! I am sitting in the living room and my relationship with life isn’t at it’s best right now. I’m healthy, my mind is on the right track, and I am in beautiful Miami Beach. What could possibly be wrong? My appreciation for those things are great but I’m missing something. Financial freedom and the number one thing, impacting others on the scale that I would like. Being positive has its ups and downs and the skepticism lingers in my subconscious. The bad seems greater than the good and the bad seems to stick around longer. Mental conditioning is what works best and it is needed daily.

                      Knowledge of Self

When I skip a day of mental conditioning, I get soaked from the negative rain drops. My mood is greatly affected and I can’t seem to get over the hump for the entire day. When I wake and listen to my speeches and speak all things that I want into the universe, I feel better about where I am heading. One thing that I am not, and that is an expert on life. You can only become an expert on you and your life and that takes time and the warm embrace of change. I know what works for me and what I need to do to keep myself going and mentally motivated. Why is that such a battle? It’s a battle because I have been conditioning my mind for about 2 years now. That means I have 31 years of negativity that needs to be removed and conditioned into positivity.


                   Tools and Preparation

The war is present and it is the greatest gift you can receive in life. Yes, the pain and sacrifice of war is the greatest benefit for you inner and outer world. You must have great mental armor for this war and be prepared to lose some battles along the way. You will lose some soldiers, and you will suffer some pain. You need a great plan when you’re in a war. There must be a great mentor, amazing friends (soldiers), and powerful weaponry (books, quotes, speakers, audio, and videos). These tools are needed daily and can’t be taken for granted. I am currently in this war and I lose a few battles weekly. Some days are hard for me to get motivated and I just don’t want to condition my mind. I must get into the habit of domination. I can’t take any days off or think that I have my mind under control because this war is forever.


                           Daily Battles

I must dominate every battle week after week, day after day. Days off are a setback to what I am trying to accomplish in this war. I can’t afford to waste time or overestimate the position that I am currently in. I shall attack everyday like it’s the first day of mental warfare. Preparation must be the oxygen and fuel for my day, and there is no room for arrogance in mental warfare. I want all to know that the battles come in different variations and that your weapons and lessons should always be utilized. You need these things daily and talking with a great mentor helps in preparing and winning the battles current and ahead. Keep fighting and if you stay ready, you never have to get ready.

Original Post: August 31,2016

Post Link: https://www.fearlessmotivation.com/2016/08/31/are-you-prepared-to-fight-the-mental-battle-in-your-mind/

Written By: Ronald Wilson

 
       What in the hell is justice? Why would any human being walking this planet even believe in justice? Justice can only occur when you are a victim of theft, and the items can be returned to you in the exact same condition that you had previously, or you receive brand new or more. Cash is very rarely returned completely. Americans throw this bullshit word around more than it should be thrown around and it baffles me that people believe in it. When someone you love life is taken, how can there be justice for that? That person being put in custody does not return your loved one to you. You, killing the person can’t return your loved one to you. This world doesn’t have too many examples of justice. I love the protest marches and the outspoken individuals that are in this world, but things will never change. There will forever be band-aids placed on the wounds of injustice.
 
       America is full of shit and will forever be that way. We are all here on stolen territory and there is an uproar about athletes standing for the flag of a stolen country? I started writing this with the #marchforourlives in mind happening today. There are marches today in Washington D.C. and sister marches across the country, with a defiant message against gun violence and the gun lobbyist. I love that the this march is happening as well as any other march that happens in this country, but it will never have a great impact. Guns are written in the bill of rights. I feel this was made for the weak man but hey what in the hell does that matter. What matters is that guns are too deeply rooted in this corrupt country and world. The United States gains far too much money selling guns. Say the government actually banned assault rifles? Those assault rifles just become more valuable and lucrative in the united states on the black market. The government basically hands the American citizen all the “Bad Things” that they are “fighting to control”. Drugs are in this country by the federal government opening the door for them to be here. All diseases can be cured if the federal government didn’t lay in bed with pharmaceutical companies. Those two statements are just my opinion and examples of injustice in the USA. There are very few decent and honorable people that have important seats in the federal government. Justice is irrelevant to the individuals that hold seats in government. Their bank accounts and the title that they hold gives them power. Power and status means everything to the people that have seats in the government. The government does not care about lives being lost. The government does not care about anything that does not put money into the governments pockets.
 
       Justice happens in the mind and the heart. People must become honest and kind to themselves and others. Love has been on the losing end on this planet since humans were created. There are some great people that embody great character traits, but evil and unkind people are winning. Justice is forgiveness and having Joy during the injustice. You are the only person that can administer those feelings deep within your soul. Your government, city, county, state, or law enforcement can not deliver you true justice. True justice has to come from within you and you have to give it to yourself. My heart is heavy with pain for the people that has lost their lives to gun violence. I pray that human beings find kindness in their hearts for their fellow man but until that day comes, there will be NO JUSTICE. The government cant fix the people, people can only fix themselves. Take some fucking responsibility for your actions!!

​Written By: Ronald A. Wilson

I started this blog for one specific reason, and that one reason was to INSPIRE all. I wanted every and anyone that read my articles to feel like they could do and be whatever they wanted after reading my posts, but lately, I have felt the need to focus my writings on my race and culture. There have been 7 killings of unarmed black men as of July 2017 this year according to nola.com. The site mentions the killing of an unarmed black teenager, 15-year-old Jordan Edwards shot in April by a white police officer in a Dallas Suburb. The officer opened fire on Edwards and his friends as they drove away from a party. “The department initially said the teens tried to back over the officer but retracted the statement after officials reviewed a video of the shooting. The officer, who is white, has been fired and now faces a charge of murder.” This shooting has been reported by major and local news outlets, but it seems the outrage from black Americans was absent nationally. Where are the protests in every city, and the social media support? Oh, that’s right, dove is being racist, NFL players are kneeling, and the restaurant “Houston’s” wouldn’t seat 7 black people.

Dove?

Has anyone watched the full dove ad that was called racist? I watched the 30 second video, and I immediately understood what the ad was trying to represent. Diversity was the focus of the dove ad. The black woman removing her shirt and then a white woman appears, and then the white woman removes her shirt and then a Hispanic woman appears. In my opinion this ad was not racist and if you watch the entire clip, I don’t feel that many would get that feeling of racism either. The ad is simply saying that this product is for all skin tones and textures. Social media fueled the take down of this “racist” ad, as usual the internet wins. Stop with all the reaching for attention and sympathy. Of course, this ad received more media attention than the killing of unarmed teen Jordan Edwards.

NFL.

Kneeling during the national anthem has turned into a complete fucking circus this year. The world and Donald Trump has been very opinionated regarding players kneeling during the national anthem. Who gives a damn if they kneel or not, what are the players doing to stop police officers from killing unarmed black men (15-year-old Jordan Edwards)? The majority have done absolutely NOTHING. No foot has been placed on the necks of the people that can make a difference in the cause of cops killing unarmed black men. Now it’s the players vs. Trump. This makes no sense at all and the original focus was always to protest the killing of unarmed black men in America like 15-year-old Jordan Edwards.
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Houston's

The most recent fake fuck given by black Americans, is against the restaurant “Houston’s”. Yep, this establishment hates black people. They would not seat 7 Black Americans in the Houston’s restaurant in Atlanta. This is tragic! How dare they not allow those Black people to eat in their establishment! The bigger question for me is, who gives a FUCK!? Stop losing focus on the bigger picture to focus on something that doesn’t really matter. Most black people don’t even know where to find a damn Houston’s, and if they did, the food is overpriced and not that damn great to begin with.

Black America, figure it the fuck out! The war starts within the culture first, before the star of protesting racism. Let’s protest self-hate, murdering of each other, and lack of knowledge we give each other. Haven’t you all noticed that no change has occurred and probably will never occur. White America and other races know that we don’t band together, respect our communities, or lend a helping hand to each other in a time of need. If we don’t respect ourselves, how in the hell can we expect others to respect us? You shouldn’t paint and fix the exterior of the car before you repair the engine. The car would look good but not have the essential capability of moving because the engine is no good. Rest in Peace to Jordan Edwards, Rest in Peace to Black Power and Black Pride. I pray I see evidence of this before my time here on earth is done.

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

​          Where is my father, and why doesn’t he come around to see me? I am sure that question has probably been said by you or you’ve heard it from a child close to you. A child should never have to ask these questions, but it’s the reality of failed relationships and situationships. Two people get together, create a child and before you know it, BOOM, there is just one parent in the home of the child. This child is born but regard on how he/she is raised isn’t always in the parent’s best interest. Two people will have a child before they get married. You can divorce a person and never see them again if a child isn’t born into the relationship, but when a child is born into the relationship, you are forever attached to the person that you’ve had the child with. The sad part is that both people know that they aren’t ready for a child but practicing overrides intelligence.  


          Why isn’t the father home with his child/ren? Why is he always the first to be totally out of the picture? Yes, men are pieces of shit and aren’t as responsible as they should be. Men are also selfish, egotistical, and controlling. These characteristics are regardless of color or culture but of course some colors and cultures are worse than others. Men want their cake and the ice cream to go with the cake as well. A great majority of the time, the man is to blame for the ultimate failure of the relationship. We cheat on, lie to, deceive, and manipulate a woman and then expect her to be the same and or understanding for what we have done. This behavior isn’t good for the child and will always lead to the father being absent from the home. Once the break happens, the child has to break up with one of the parents also. The beginning stages of the break up become messy and the child becomes a key figure for leverage in the failed relationship. The man will ask to see the child but it’s really to see the mom, or what and how she is doing after the breakup. His motives aren’t correct and are lost in his emotions and ego. These antics can blur the vision of the mother on the relationship the father is supposed to have with the child.

          Now we all know that the man is not always to blame for the relationship going bad, and for not being a key figure in his child’s life. Growing up I didn’t have my father at home and nor was he in my life greatly. My father and mother both had issues with addiction and clouded their judgment on their responsibilities. My mother never placed him on child support but he did provide sporadically throughout any given year. The point is that I think he had full access to me but chose not to take full advantage of the access that was directly or indirectly granted to him. He could have seen me as much as he wanted or called as much as he wanted but he chose not to. I don’t know the total relationship between him and my mother but based on the circumstances, he could have been a lot more active in my life. I didn’t grow up with hatred in my heart towards my father but I do wish he was a bit more active in my life.

          Here I am 33 years of age with children from two different mothers and I am an absentee father. I’ve now moved to Miami and I don’t have a great relationship with my children. I had my children in my early twenties and I wasn’t the smartest twenty-year-old at the time. I took on the responsibilities of contributing to the lives of my children from the very start, but the break-ups with both mothers did not go well at all. The first mother placed me on child support and restricted me from seeing my child once she found out I had fathered a second child. My second child was conceived after my relationship was over with my first child’s mother. The pre-child support and restrictions were rough but I was still able to be around for my child until the birth of the second. The second mother was an episode from the Maury Show. A paternity test was needed to determine if I was the father, and her and I hadn’t spoke to each other during the pregnancy and quite some time before the pregnancy. Results show that I am the father. I step up to the plate to provide and contribute for my child. That relationship ends badly and restrictions along with child support come from this mother as well. Both break ups were my call but being young and uninformed of what love is meant we all were to blame for them ending.

          Mother’s, your emotions and feelings are not more important than the child’s relationship with the father. The green light to be a father should be given without hesitation, without lawyers, judges, and the state being involved. Child support is needed for men that choose NOT to contribute but have the means to do so. This was not created for spite, control, or extra income for yourself. The child isn’t a chess piece in your game of pain and anger. “You can see your child ANYTIME you want, and lets workout what you can contribute financially for the child” would be amazing to hear. Stop with the games and the scorn. You should never keep a child from seeing their father, and that’s regardless of how you were treated. If his ass decides not to be there for the child and you gave the greenlight, then that is his problem and not yours. Children need both parents involved in their lives and it’s that simple. Swallow pride and ego and make it work and this has to happen with both individuals. 

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson

One thing that I have been told is that my delivery is too strong. The words I use aren’t caring and compassionate as I have been told before. Well guess what, I DON’T CARE. That is who I am and how I choose to be with certain people depending on the situation. I do understand when to be raw and uncut and when not to be. Things that are done by a person that are clearly not in that person’s best interest is upsetting to me. When I say that, I mean that you tell me what you really want but just won’t decide to go after it. I give it to you in the rough way so that you don’t have to continue to live roughly. I know when the sensitive and sweet talk needs to happen but there is a time for that and there is a time for the realness. If you talk with me and clearly let me know that you understand your circumstances, but just don’t want to change them, my delivery is unsympathetic. I can’t feel sorry for a person that plans a murder. I can’t feel sorry for a person that knows they are unhappy in a situation but refuse to leave it. I don’t care about your excuses or how rough the outcome will be. Change it or SHUT UP. It is that simple. When you overthink the obvious, life will not be kind to you.


You think life cares about your excuses? You think life will be kind and nice to you for being unhappy? The answer to both questions is HELL NO!! Life is here to beat the living hell out of you and put you in an early grave. All the unhealthy food is cheaper than the healthy food. Working out is inconvenient to your daily wants and needs. Leaving a bad relationship is hard and it will hurt the other person’s feelings. Life has no sympathy for the disobedient and it will make whatever circumstances worst if YOU don’t change them. If you are out of shape and refuse to workout, your health begins to diminish. If you stay in a bad relationship and refuse to leave it, there are a plenty of things that could potentially happen. When you do decide to leave, your mentality about the next relationship is not as open. This is your life, and I am not perfect but I have my life figured out. Let’s please be the best versions of ourselves. This is first for you and then for the people that are with and around you. If you enjoy being unhappy, then stop complaining about it. No one can for an opinion on your circumstances if they have no knowledge of them. You either are happy or you aren’t. There is no gray area in this life for happiness. It’s time to put things in perspective and realize time is not on your side. Make happiness a priority once you discover what makes you happy. Do you know what makes you happy?

Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson

I know you read the title of this post and wonder why would I be so rude to make that statement before the question? Well that statement is directed at me as well as the question. This is how I approach my future success in life. I have removed the fear of failing, and the removal happened when I realized success hasn’t ever existed in my 33 years of living. If I have never been successful, then why in the hell would I ever be afraid to pursue my dreams? I asked myself this question and the reality set in that there is nothing to fear and the cliff that I was standing on didn’t seem so frightening anymore. How could I be scared of something that I have been drowning in since birth.
 
I didn’t have my own room until I got my first apartment. I never had the best clothes or shoes. There was hardly ever a phone in my house growing up. I had more roaches in my house than any human being could tolerate. I was kicked out of high school the year I was supposed to graduate, even though there wasn’t a chance in hell that I was graduating.  I had my first child at the age of 22 with a woman that tried to kill me quite a few times. Best Buy was my employer for 8 years and you can only imagine how great that turned out to be. Never much money in my bank account approaching the next paycheck, if any money at all. I’m living check to check and I have two different women trying to get as much child support as they possibly can. Most of the failure in my life was brought upon myself and some failures given to me from my parents. Failing sucks but once you’re so deep into failure, it just becomes “LIFE”. This is how we relate more to negative things and not the positive. An always optimistic and positive person is called “unrealistic”, “crazy”, and “Dumb”. These words are used due to the comfort level with negativity. When it’s embedded in your life and becomes the “norm”, a positive minded person is treated differently.
 
I say all of that to say that me pursuing my dreams in an aggressive way over the past year has come with no fear of failure. I am already in failure if I haven’t achieved success. This gray area between failure and success does not exist. Success is doing what you love to do daily with an undying passion. Success has no Monday morning blues, success is full of Joy and happiness, success is freedom and I am not talking about your four weeks paid vacation. You should be doing what is desired in your heart and all that you have dreamt of having. I am not successful yet but I know I will be. I am putting in the effort and actions to accomplish my dreams. My vision board is my locked screen on my cell phone, I speak and feel confident in what I am doing to achieve my dreams, I could care less what others may think, sacrifice has become a staple, and exercising my positive mind with books, speeches, and amazing people has helped keep me inspires and motivated. Your passion is what you’d be doing without currency being the outcome, your dreams are the things that make you tingle at just the thought of them coming true, and if money is the only part of your dream well then the things listed before have to be established first. 

Written by: Ronald A. Wilson

          ​The journey finally begins and has been anticipated for myself. I have moved to Miami after years of speaking it into existence. Sometimes it takes longer than you want it to but you must stay consistent and positive when you know what you want. Now I ask myself “Ronald now what?”. Most would know the answer to that question before making a big move like this but I look to not be most. I can’t become great doing safe and cautious things. The most important thing for me to do is stay positive and never speak fear or negativity out of my mouth. I do want to make one thing clear and that is I do not have all the answers and I am still learning as I go in life. This move and its uncertainty puts me in a position to grow even more and see what I am really made of. I need this type of journey for my life and what I want for my life. Doubt will surface from time to time and sometimes fear will arise as well, but those two things will have me on the first thing smoking back to Chicago to my safety net. I am looking to create my own safety net for myself and my loved ones.
 
          I was fine back home. I could have stayed there, working, living in my apartment, driving my car, and going through the motions as I have all my adult life. I have felt for many years that a change of environment would strengthen my character beyond my beliefs. Now the great weather, beautiful beaches, and the best nightlife in the united states had some influence but that wasn’t the primary reason for the selection of Miami. This place has had a hold on me from the first time I’ve ever visited. I have found it to mean more to me than just the things people think of from their experiences or the television. People think it isn’t realistic to live here and do great things from where I come from. People have said things like “I can vacation there but living there is too much”, “It’s too HOT”, “All there is to do there is party”, “You’re going to have to learn how to speak Spanish”, and on and on and on. I tried my best not to laugh in the person face that was making the statements but opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. I am here now and now it is time to perform and embrace all the greatness that will come my way. I will document my journey for inspiration and reflection as well.
 
          Change your environment to change your life and that is not limited to your physical being. Your journey may not be a move but it may be your information diet, your health, your finances or your social life. The point is that for growth to happen there must be a change in your life and you have to be the leader of that change and not your circumstances.
 
Written by Ronald A. Wilson

​          We all are looking for something in life. One thing that all human beings look for and want is ACCEPTANCE. Why is being accepted by other individuals and or organizations so important to us? They are just people and it’s just that simple. I know we all go through this as children growing up and children are taught to feel that way. In elementary and high school, we are looking to make friends and hopefully be part of the “cool crowd”. The “cool crowd” sets the status in the school and neighborhood that we live in. Our parents whom have gone through the same thing in their childhood, don’t really know how to deal with this issue of acceptance. This want and need then follows us into adulthood. There should be a point in that growth where you develop your own character and values. This happens for some people but there are still many that don’t transition well.
 
          I watched coverage of the Academy awards (Oscars) in 2016 and was disappointed but not surprised at the actions that were taking place by African Americans. I am disappointed because as a culture we are still looking for acceptance in America. I can’t for the life of me understand why blacks want to be accepted by people and or organizations. We have even created our own award shows (BET, NAACP, etc) but of course they’re not of the same stature as the Grammy’s and the Oscar’s. The reason why they aren’t of the same stature is due to the culture not sticking together and taking ownership. Why are you complaining and upset about black people not having enough representation in an environment that was not meant for you. This “acceptance” could have happened organically but of course no one wants to sacrifice ego or money. If African Americans don’t attend the non-diverse events, the reaction to that is automatic change.   
 
          African Americans have suffered from lack of unity since the years of slavery. There will never be change in the culture until unity is established totally. I would like to say that I am not for segregation at all. I feel we all should be one, but if you are expecting change and acceptance the route that is being taken is totally incorrect. White America will never accept you because they know they still have the power to divide you in certain areas. Accept yourself first, accept your family and friends secondly, and third accept the culture as a whole. The steps listed are just my thoughts of how to overcome this acceptance issue that African Americans have and the rest of the world as well. I want all individuals to be self-fulfilled and enriched with happiness and love first. 

​Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.

Dear America,

                I wanted to write this letter to you, because of the effect that the election has had on Americans. Donald J. Trump is now President of the Unites States of America. That last statement is hard to swallow for many different reasons and I understand all of them. He has said many questionable things and as President of the United States, the things he has said are not acceptable for that position. I understand the rebellion you have against him, but I think we are aiming to high on the food chain. Donald Trump is not only empowered by money but also other elected officials that you have empowered in your community, city, and states. Have we looked there first and if you have what is the plan? I honestly feel as if the politics in America aren’t the issue. This issue starts in homes and communities with “family and friends”. The things that Donald Trump has said have hurt many people and has angered many more. The question I want to ask America is, have you never heard this talk before?
 
                I am very sure that what Donald Trump has said has been said by someone that you know or love in your lifetime. Why is his accountability so much greater than the person that said it feet or even inches from you? You would rather march and fight for this public figure and not your own household or community. I am sure some of the individuals do hold others that are close in relation to them to a very high standard, but not all of them. That statement is obviously true or Trump wouldn’t have been voted in by the votes that mattered. You can’t hold the President to a higher standard than those that you have a relationship. This education and standard of behavior must be set in the homes and communities that you live in. Start with conversations and exposure to different cultures and see how much different we can become.
 
                Obama was a great example of what America wants to represent. It is up to you to keep that with you and deliver that message from his election date and forward. Minority America must understand that everything will be a bit more tough for you than for white Americans. The effort and desire must be greater to get where you want in this world, not just America. America was built from minority blood, sweat, and tears. This does not mean that the blood, sweat, and tears should disappear over time and now “WHITE Privilege” is upon us ALL. You should work twice as hard to make it in this life and be grateful for your journey. White Privilege is for white Americans. If you want more privileges, create your own damn privileges and standards of living.
 
                Stop complaining, stop moaning, and remove the damn fear. The accountability starts with you, and not Donald Trump. When you stop complaining and “Do Shit” then his presidency has little to no effect on you, your friends, and family. All we want to do is point the fucking finger and blame someone for our life’s deficiencies and inequalities. Your effort or lack thereof is the reason you are in fear of Donald Trump. Whatever he makes difficult I will work harder to overcome or help change it. Let’s be excited about the possible change that will spark effort that you didn’t know even existed within yourself. Life is a fight and the obstacles are always going to be throw at you but your character is exposed based on your reaction to the obstacle. Embrace the change rather good or bad and make the necessary adjustment needed to survive. Nothing in life is fucking easy and or stays the same forever. God Bless America and the entire WORLD.

Written By: Ronald A. Wilson.