I have always loved history and learning about historical events. I know that it will not be 100% accurate but I still have that nostalgia for it all. I love the podcasts, books, documentaries, movies, and just stories all together. I say that to say this, history can be a gift and a curse for all of us on Earth today. Knowledge of our ancestors, architecture, family, and so on are healthy and intriguing. I think you can take that in, but you don’t have to live in it. I am writing this article because the past seems to have a hold on many of us today. I am speaking on the hold that is hindering us from moving forward in our lives.
Intimate relationships are at the top of things that hold us back. The understanding that something ended that we were part of seems to be a stain on our psyche. Relationships END for a reason. The “love” stops for a reason. Love is a constant and is the strongest emotion in life. It will always over power hate and negativity. If it stops then it never existed in it’s pure form. You may have thought it was love but the other person definitely didn’t feel the same way. God placed you with that person for that moment for a reason in that period of time. After that moment ends and your no longer together, it’s time to move on. Oh, and it’s just that simple. You can’t move on with someone new if you’re holding on to the person in the past. They don’t matter anymore and closure is never really achieved in relationships ending. You have to create your own closure and stop looking for someone else to give you the closure needed to move on. No one can make you feel better, you have to make the decision to feel better for yourself. They played a role in your life’s movie and now that character is no longer playing that role. It’s time to have new people audition for your film.
Culture and racial history has an even bigger hold on us all. Slavery, holocaust, and other great historical events are still so relevant today. Why is this the case and why haven’t we all moved on from these events? You can’t erase past events but why are they so relevant in 2018? I feel that it’s equivalent to breaking a leg, rehabilitating, and having it totally healed, but always making it known that you had a broken leg. You’re in a fight and the person you’re fighting kicks you in that leg. Do you let the person know that the leg he or she kicked was broken? I assume that if you do, the person will then concentrate on the leg that was once broken to then break it again. Looking for sympathy or a pat on the ass because of things that happened to your ancestors, will get you nowhere. We all know where the pain stems from but you do not have to refer to that when an issue arises. The person that is “attacking” you can give a damn about your ancestors, and I am sure the person will not stop the attack based on your ancestor’s pain. We all know that those events were tragic and horrible but let’s stop speaking on those issues and using them as leverage. Never ignore hatred and ignorance but stop giving it so much power. My ancestors went through hell and God bless those spirits that had to endure that kind of hell. I sympathize with them (ancestors) not a black person in 2018. There isn’t any slavery today and our opportunities are limitless. Our ancestors endured enough pain for us to stop trying to relive it. LIVE NOW!!
People it’s time to move forward! Stop living in the past and having it affect your future plans and endeavors. Giving someone or some event from the past that much power in your life and having it as a reference isn’t healthy. “The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”
Written by: Ronald Anthony Wilson.
Grateful – Feeling or showing an appreciation of kindness; thankful.
This definition was pulled from the google dictionary, and to be honest I don’t fully agree with it. I don’t agree with the fact that you need something to happen in order to be grateful. In my opinion we should be grateful without actions happening. Most individuals that are grateful, are grateful in comparison to something or someone else’s misfortune. “I’m grateful because”, is a terrible way to be grateful and really doesn’t mean you’re grateful. This means that you aren’t grateful at all. If you need to see someone else’s misfortune for you to be grateful for your current life and circumstances, then it’s in vain. You can want more out of life, and of course you know of “more” based on life experiences. Being grateful should happen daily and verbally giving thanks is a start. There are so many ways to be grateful in your life. Being grateful is for you, not for anyone else. Gratitude is shown for your personal growth and development in life. You don’t give gratitude about life and in life for others satisfaction. If someone does something or gives you something, then of course you show gratitude to that person or group of people.
I find that being grateful gives me a natural high as does giving unto others does. Even when you’re doing something for others, you’re really doing it for yourself. It just makes you feel good about yourself and about life. Being grateful strengthens your faith and your love for life and others in life. Thank God, your parents, friends, teachers, and whomever has given a helping hand in your life. Give thanks no matter how big or small the gesture. This opens your world up for more and what you actually desire. I give thanks before I ask for what I want in my life. I can’t ask for riches if I I’m not grateful for what I currently have. I have been ungrateful and while being ungrateful I asked for very small things for my life. Don’t limit your life based on your current circumstances. Being genuinely grateful will open up the flood gates for what you want in your life. You can stop asking for band-aids, and minor fixes in your life. Be thankful for the car that you have but stop asking God to continually fix it. Ask God for the car that you want in your life. I know that you feel that asking for the fix is attainable but so is you getting the vehicle of your dreams. The universe and or God has no limits on what can happen in your life but be grateful for who you are and where you are now.
You can love your small apartment but ask for a 10-bedroom mansion while you’re in it. Have direction and imagination. Love all that you want to replace and treat it with love as well. There aren’t any limits in life and you have seen examples of minimal life limits. No person is smarter or better than you are, but you have to have faith and let your imagination take you to what you desire.
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.
When it rains it pours! I am sitting in the living room and my relationship with life isn’t at it’s best right now. I’m healthy, my mind is on the right track, and I am in beautiful Miami Beach. What could possibly be wrong? My appreciation for those things are great but I’m missing something. Financial freedom and the number one thing, impacting others on the scale that I would like. Being positive has its ups and downs and the skepticism lingers in my subconscious. The bad seems greater than the good and the bad seems to stick around longer. Mental conditioning is what works best and it is needed daily.
Knowledge of Self
When I skip a day of mental conditioning, I get soaked from the negative rain drops. My mood is greatly affected and I can’t seem to get over the hump for the entire day. When I wake and listen to my speeches and speak all things that I want into the universe, I feel better about where I am heading. One thing that I am not, and that is an expert on life. You can only become an expert on you and your life and that takes time and the warm embrace of change. I know what works for me and what I need to do to keep myself going and mentally motivated. Why is that such a battle? It’s a battle because I have been conditioning my mind for about 2 years now. That means I have 31 years of negativity that needs to be removed and conditioned into positivity.
Tools and Preparation
The war is present and it is the greatest gift you can receive in life. Yes, the pain and sacrifice of war is the greatest benefit for you inner and outer world. You must have great mental armor for this war and be prepared to lose some battles along the way. You will lose some soldiers, and you will suffer some pain. You need a great plan when you’re in a war. There must be a great mentor, amazing friends (soldiers), and powerful weaponry (books, quotes, speakers, audio, and videos). These tools are needed daily and can’t be taken for granted. I am currently in this war and I lose a few battles weekly. Some days are hard for me to get motivated and I just don’t want to condition my mind. I must get into the habit of domination. I can’t take any days off or think that I have my mind under control because this war is forever.
I must dominate every battle week after week, day after day. Days off are a setback to what I am trying to accomplish in this war. I can’t afford to waste time or overestimate the position that I am currently in. I shall attack everyday like it’s the first day of mental warfare. Preparation must be the oxygen and fuel for my day, and there is no room for arrogance in mental warfare. I want all to know that the battles come in different variations and that your weapons and lessons should always be utilized. You need these things daily and talking with a great mentor helps in preparing and winning the battles current and ahead. Keep fighting and if you stay ready, you never have to get ready.
Original Post: August 31,2016
Post Link: https://www.fearlessmotivation.com/2016/08/31/are-you-prepared-to-fight-the-mental-battle-in-your-mind/
Written By: Ronald Wilson
What in the hell is justice? Why would any human being walking this planet even believe in justice? Justice can only occur when you are a victim of theft, and the items can be returned to you in the exact same condition that you had previously, or you receive brand new or more. Cash is very rarely returned completely. Americans throw this bullshit word around more than it should be thrown around and it baffles me that people believe in it. When someone you love life is taken, how can there be justice for that? That person being put in custody does not return your loved one to you. You, killing the person can’t return your loved one to you. This world doesn’t have too many examples of justice. I love the protest marches and the outspoken individuals that are in this world, but things will never change. There will forever be band-aids placed on the wounds of injustice.
America is full of shit and will forever be that way. We are all here on stolen territory and there is an uproar about athletes standing for the flag of a stolen country? I started writing this with the #marchforourlives in mind happening today. There are marches today in Washington D.C. and sister marches across the country, with a defiant message against gun violence and the gun lobbyist. I love that the this march is happening as well as any other march that happens in this country, but it will never have a great impact. Guns are written in the bill of rights. I feel this was made for the weak man but hey what in the hell does that matter. What matters is that guns are too deeply rooted in this corrupt country and world. The United States gains far too much money selling guns. Say the government actually banned assault rifles? Those assault rifles just become more valuable and lucrative in the united states on the black market. The government basically hands the American citizen all the “Bad Things” that they are “fighting to control”. Drugs are in this country by the federal government opening the door for them to be here. All diseases can be cured if the federal government didn’t lay in bed with pharmaceutical companies. Those two statements are just my opinion and examples of injustice in the USA. There are very few decent and honorable people that have important seats in the federal government. Justice is irrelevant to the individuals that hold seats in government. Their bank accounts and the title that they hold gives them power. Power and status means everything to the people that have seats in the government. The government does not care about lives being lost. The government does not care about anything that does not put money into the governments pockets.
Justice happens in the mind and the heart. People must become honest and kind to themselves and others. Love has been on the losing end on this planet since humans were created. There are some great people that embody great character traits, but evil and unkind people are winning. Justice is forgiveness and having Joy during the injustice. You are the only person that can administer those feelings deep within your soul. Your government, city, county, state, or law enforcement can not deliver you true justice. True justice has to come from within you and you have to give it to yourself. My heart is heavy with pain for the people that has lost their lives to gun violence. I pray that human beings find kindness in their hearts for their fellow man but until that day comes, there will be NO JUSTICE. The government cant fix the people, people can only fix themselves. Take some fucking responsibility for your actions!!
Written By: Ronald A. Wilson
I started this blog for one specific reason, and that one reason was to INSPIRE all. I wanted every and anyone that read my articles to feel like they could do and be whatever they wanted after reading my posts, but lately, I have felt the need to focus my writings on my race and culture. There have been 7 killings of unarmed black men as of July 2017 this year according to nola.com. The site mentions the killing of an unarmed black teenager, 15-year-old Jordan Edwards shot in April by a white police officer in a Dallas Suburb. The officer opened fire on Edwards and his friends as they drove away from a party. “The department initially said the teens tried to back over the officer but retracted the statement after officials reviewed a video of the shooting. The officer, who is white, has been fired and now faces a charge of murder.” This shooting has been reported by major and local news outlets, but it seems the outrage from black Americans was absent nationally. Where are the protests in every city, and the social media support? Oh, that’s right, dove is being racist, NFL players are kneeling, and the restaurant “Houston’s” wouldn’t seat 7 black people.
Has anyone watched the full dove ad that was called racist? I watched the 30 second video, and I immediately understood what the ad was trying to represent. Diversity was the focus of the dove ad. The black woman removing her shirt and then a white woman appears, and then the white woman removes her shirt and then a Hispanic woman appears. In my opinion this ad was not racist and if you watch the entire clip, I don’t feel that many would get that feeling of racism either. The ad is simply saying that this product is for all skin tones and textures. Social media fueled the take down of this “racist” ad, as usual the internet wins. Stop with all the reaching for attention and sympathy. Of course, this ad received more media attention than the killing of unarmed teen Jordan Edwards.
Kneeling during the national anthem has turned into a complete fucking circus this year. The world and Donald Trump has been very opinionated regarding players kneeling during the national anthem. Who gives a damn if they kneel or not, what are the players doing to stop police officers from killing unarmed black men (15-year-old Jordan Edwards)? The majority have done absolutely NOTHING. No foot has been placed on the necks of the people that can make a difference in the cause of cops killing unarmed black men. Now it’s the players vs. Trump. This makes no sense at all and the original focus was always to protest the killing of unarmed black men in America like 15-year-old Jordan Edwards.
The most recent fake fuck given by black Americans, is against the restaurant “Houston’s”. Yep, this establishment hates black people. They would not seat 7 Black Americans in the Houston’s restaurant in Atlanta. This is tragic! How dare they not allow those Black people to eat in their establishment! The bigger question for me is, who gives a FUCK!? Stop losing focus on the bigger picture to focus on something that doesn’t really matter. Most black people don’t even know where to find a damn Houston’s, and if they did, the food is overpriced and not that damn great to begin with.
Black America, figure it the fuck out! The war starts within the culture first, before the star of protesting racism. Let’s protest self-hate, murdering of each other, and lack of knowledge we give each other. Haven’t you all noticed that no change has occurred and probably will never occur. White America and other races know that we don’t band together, respect our communities, or lend a helping hand to each other in a time of need. If we don’t respect ourselves, how in the hell can we expect others to respect us? You shouldn’t paint and fix the exterior of the car before you repair the engine. The car would look good but not have the essential capability of moving because the engine is no good. Rest in Peace to Jordan Edwards, Rest in Peace to Black Power and Black Pride. I pray I see evidence of this before my time here on earth is done.
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.
Where is my father, and why doesn’t he come around to see me? I am sure that question has probably been said by you or you’ve heard it from a child close to you. A child should never have to ask these questions, but it’s the reality of failed relationships and situationships. Two people get together, create a child and before you know it, BOOM, there is just one parent in the home of the child. This child is born but regard on how he/she is raised isn’t always in the parent’s best interest. Two people will have a child before they get married. You can divorce a person and never see them again if a child isn’t born into the relationship, but when a child is born into the relationship, you are forever attached to the person that you’ve had the child with. The sad part is that both people know that they aren’t ready for a child but practicing overrides intelligence.
Why isn’t the father home with his child/ren? Why is he always the first to be totally out of the picture? Yes, men are pieces of shit and aren’t as responsible as they should be. Men are also selfish, egotistical, and controlling. These characteristics are regardless of color or culture but of course some colors and cultures are worse than others. Men want their cake and the ice cream to go with the cake as well. A great majority of the time, the man is to blame for the ultimate failure of the relationship. We cheat on, lie to, deceive, and manipulate a woman and then expect her to be the same and or understanding for what we have done. This behavior isn’t good for the child and will always lead to the father being absent from the home. Once the break happens, the child has to break up with one of the parents also. The beginning stages of the break up become messy and the child becomes a key figure for leverage in the failed relationship. The man will ask to see the child but it’s really to see the mom, or what and how she is doing after the breakup. His motives aren’t correct and are lost in his emotions and ego. These antics can blur the vision of the mother on the relationship the father is supposed to have with the child.
Now we all know that the man is not always to blame for the relationship going bad, and for not being a key figure in his child’s life. Growing up I didn’t have my father at home and nor was he in my life greatly. My father and mother both had issues with addiction and clouded their judgment on their responsibilities. My mother never placed him on child support but he did provide sporadically throughout any given year. The point is that I think he had full access to me but chose not to take full advantage of the access that was directly or indirectly granted to him. He could have seen me as much as he wanted or called as much as he wanted but he chose not to. I don’t know the total relationship between him and my mother but based on the circumstances, he could have been a lot more active in my life. I didn’t grow up with hatred in my heart towards my father but I do wish he was a bit more active in my life.
Here I am 33 years of age with children from two different mothers and I am an absentee father. I’ve now moved to Miami and I don’t have a great relationship with my children. I had my children in my early twenties and I wasn’t the smartest twenty-year-old at the time. I took on the responsibilities of contributing to the lives of my children from the very start, but the break-ups with both mothers did not go well at all. The first mother placed me on child support and restricted me from seeing my child once she found out I had fathered a second child. My second child was conceived after my relationship was over with my first child’s mother. The pre-child support and restrictions were rough but I was still able to be around for my child until the birth of the second. The second mother was an episode from the Maury Show. A paternity test was needed to determine if I was the father, and her and I hadn’t spoke to each other during the pregnancy and quite some time before the pregnancy. Results show that I am the father. I step up to the plate to provide and contribute for my child. That relationship ends badly and restrictions along with child support come from this mother as well. Both break ups were my call but being young and uninformed of what love is meant we all were to blame for them ending.
Mother’s, your emotions and feelings are not more important than the child’s relationship with the father. The green light to be a father should be given without hesitation, without lawyers, judges, and the state being involved. Child support is needed for men that choose NOT to contribute but have the means to do so. This was not created for spite, control, or extra income for yourself. The child isn’t a chess piece in your game of pain and anger. “You can see your child ANYTIME you want, and lets workout what you can contribute financially for the child” would be amazing to hear. Stop with the games and the scorn. You should never keep a child from seeing their father, and that’s regardless of how you were treated. If his ass decides not to be there for the child and you gave the greenlight, then that is his problem and not yours. Children need both parents involved in their lives and it’s that simple. Swallow pride and ego and make it work and this has to happen with both individuals.
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson