We all are looking for something in life. One thing that all human beings look for and want is ACCEPTANCE. Why is being accepted by other individuals and or organizations so important to us? They are just people and it’s just that simple. I know we all go through this as children growing up and children are taught to feel that way. In elementary and high school, we are looking to make friends and hopefully be part of the “cool crowd”. The “cool crowd” sets the status in the school and neighborhood that we live in. Our parents whom have gone through the same thing in their childhood, don’t really know how to deal with this issue of acceptance. This want and need then follows us into adulthood. There should be a point in that growth where you develop your own character and values. This happens for some people but there are still many that don’t transition well.
I watched coverage of the Academy awards (Oscars) in 2016 and was disappointed but not surprised at the actions that were taking place by African Americans. I am disappointed because as a culture we are still looking for acceptance in America. I can’t for the life of me understand why blacks want to be accepted by people and or organizations. We have even created our own award shows (BET, NAACP, etc) but of course they’re not of the same stature as the Grammy’s and the Oscar’s. The reason why they aren’t of the same stature is due to the culture not sticking together and taking ownership. Why are you complaining and upset about black people not having enough representation in an environment that was not meant for you. This “acceptance” could have happened organically but of course no one wants to sacrifice ego or money. If African Americans don’t attend the non-diverse events, the reaction to that is automatic change.
African Americans have suffered from lack of unity since the years of slavery. There will never be change in the culture until unity is established totally. I would like to say that I am not for segregation at all. I feel we all should be one, but if you are expecting change and acceptance the route that is being taken is totally incorrect. White America will never accept you because they know they still have the power to divide you in certain areas. Accept yourself first, accept your family and friends secondly, and third accept the culture as a whole. The steps listed are just my thoughts of how to overcome this acceptance issue that African Americans have and the rest of the world as well. I want all individuals to be self-fulfilled and enriched with happiness and love first.
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.
I wanted to write this letter to you, because of the effect that the election has had on Americans. Donald J. Trump is now President of the Unites States of America. That last statement is hard to swallow for many different reasons and I understand all of them. He has said many questionable things and as President of the United States, the things he has said are not acceptable for that position. I understand the rebellion you have against him, but I think we are aiming to high on the food chain. Donald Trump is not only empowered by money but also other elected officials that you have empowered in your community, city, and states. Have we looked there first and if you have what is the plan? I honestly feel as if the politics in America aren’t the issue. This issue starts in homes and communities with “family and friends”. The things that Donald Trump has said have hurt many people and has angered many more. The question I want to ask America is, have you never heard this talk before?
I am very sure that what Donald Trump has said has been said by someone that you know or love in your lifetime. Why is his accountability so much greater than the person that said it feet or even inches from you? You would rather march and fight for this public figure and not your own household or community. I am sure some of the individuals do hold others that are close in relation to them to a very high standard, but not all of them. That statement is obviously true or Trump wouldn’t have been voted in by the votes that mattered. You can’t hold the President to a higher standard than those that you have a relationship. This education and standard of behavior must be set in the homes and communities that you live in. Start with conversations and exposure to different cultures and see how much different we can become.
Obama was a great example of what America wants to represent. It is up to you to keep that with you and deliver that message from his election date and forward. Minority America must understand that everything will be a bit more tough for you than for white Americans. The effort and desire must be greater to get where you want in this world, not just America. America was built from minority blood, sweat, and tears. This does not mean that the blood, sweat, and tears should disappear over time and now “WHITE Privilege” is upon us ALL. You should work twice as hard to make it in this life and be grateful for your journey. White Privilege is for white Americans. If you want more privileges, create your own damn privileges and standards of living.
Stop complaining, stop moaning, and remove the damn fear. The accountability starts with you, and not Donald Trump. When you stop complaining and “Do Shit” then his presidency has little to no effect on you, your friends, and family. All we want to do is point the fucking finger and blame someone for our life’s deficiencies and inequalities. Your effort or lack thereof is the reason you are in fear of Donald Trump. Whatever he makes difficult I will work harder to overcome or help change it. Let’s be excited about the possible change that will spark effort that you didn’t know even existed within yourself. Life is a fight and the obstacles are always going to be throw at you but your character is exposed based on your reaction to the obstacle. Embrace the change rather good or bad and make the necessary adjustment needed to survive. Nothing in life is fucking easy and or stays the same forever. God Bless America and the entire WORLD.
Written By: Ronald A. Wilson.
This is a very touchy subject, but why not write about it. Racism is alive and has been from the beginning of time and doesn’t look to ever go away. The problem that I am having is why after so many years of this being the case, no one has adjusted to this reality. Human beings aren’t greatly acceptable to differences and that of course is ridiculous to me. This world has changed drastically since the beginning of time but it seems that people don’t adjust with the changes. Human beings could have been all one color, one height, one weight, one eye color and they would find something to separate themselves still. You would think in 2016 that RACISM wouldn’t be relevant, but it is picking up steam around the world. The discrimination is bigger than black and white. Religion is playing an even bigger part in racism.
The only answer for racism is exposure to other cultures at a very early age. When you are around different races and cultures and understand how they live their lives, you then are less likely to become a racist. Isolation to just your race hinders culture growth and growth in life. Racism isn’t necessarily taught from my experience. If a black child is raised in a black neighborhood, goes to a 100% black school, and rarely leaves his area, chances are racism will develop. Most think racism is primarily taught, but I think lack of exposure is the biggest culprit. People stay away from what they don’t understand or develop a fear of it. Place your children in interracial schools or programs. This will kill the racist bug early and at least give them the opportunity to develop their own opinion. Now this answer will not work for all and that is fine but at least you reduce the chances of hatred of another culture.
I really want to speak to African Americans that use racism as a crutch for misfortune. I get it I get it, slavery existed at one point and the respect isn’t there for us. How long are we going to use this as an excuse? How is the “White Man” still holding us down. This excuse is past due and should be finished, but it’s still being used for a crutch. Turn down the handouts from the government that keep us from growing and empowering ourselves. The government can keep its food stamps, and all other bullsh*t benefits. We can make our own way. It’s time to adjust and stop blaming others for our lack of growth and independence in this life we live. The possibilities are endless today, and all we must do is put in some effort. We must have self-pride and instill that in our children for the future. Let’s teach entrepreneurship within our household and the community. No man or woman is stopping our greatness, we are stopping the greatness from entering our lives. As a black man, I understand my responsibility to give back to the community with my physical presence and voice.
I love all races, shapes, religions, and so on. Spreading love is the answer, along with education. I know peace and unity is possible but we all have to want that in life.
Written By Ronald Anthony Wilson
This topic has everything to do with your progress in life and or your non-progress in life. Emotions can be the spark to you making an irrational decision at a critical point in your life. I wanted to write about this topic because of the experiences that I’ve had and have witnessed as well. Just like most things in life, emotions have a good and bad side to them. The key thing is keeping them under control and not to influence your actions. Happy emotions can drive you to be too generous, be careless with valuable things, or just go too far with your excitement. Sad or angry emotions can lead to jail, death, hurt, or hurting someone else. Emotions have been made out to be uncontrollable for many people, but I am here to tell you it is extremely easy to control your emotions.
You must know who you are and be self-secure to be able to handle your emotions in this rough and tough life. If you don’t take the time to sit on your ass and get a better understanding for who you are and what you can handle, your ass will be in a very bad situation. Men worst emotion is anger, it always leads to something life changing. The excuse is then “I was angry”. The dumbest thing you can say to a judge, police officer, or someone you hurt mentally or physically is that anger is the reason for your actions. Children sometimes get away with this excuse because they aren’t fully developed and haven’t lived enough life to know anything about controlling emotions. As an adult that excuse doesn’t fly, EVER. The excuse I love the most is “I was drunk” HAHAHAHAH!!! What in the hell do you mean you were drunk? As an adult, you don’t know your limit for alcohol consumption? Sounds like you shouldn’t drink if you have NO self-control with the bottle or even drugs.
Women seem to use their emotions as an excuse for everything. Men use it as well but from my experience women take the “I was emotional” excuse to the next level. Yes, I know “that’s just how women are”. How long is this going to be excusable? I personally think women should rule and own this world but their emotions get in the way of the taking over the world. Men do everything in this world for women, well at least most men. When a guy buys a car the first thing he says is “the ladies are going to go crazy for this”. When he decorates his house it’s for women’s comfort. Getting his hair cut, nice clothes, the good job, working out, and the list can go on forever. I don’t want women to be heartless and lose that nurturing characteristic but stop falling in love with attention, money, material things, or good looks. All those things are great but what is his character and his views on life? I hate to bring this one up but “THAT TIME OF THE MONTH” is one of the biggest excuses for irrational emotions. Stop being angry or sad and then you say “it’s that time of the month”. So, your brain stops working and you can’t control yourself because of this? I honestly think that because it has been said and talked about so much that it is hard not to use it as an excuse for acting irrational.
There is no excuse for acting out of character as an adult. I have nothing but respect for women, mental and emotional dis-orders, and children, but you need to take ownership of your emotions and that goes for men and women. No human being can make you angry, sad, happy, or anything else. Your reaction is all up to you. Stop it with the excuses, because we all know it is bullshit. It may take time but your progress in life depends on it. You will feel better and the feeling of having full control of your life will be amazing. Know that you have self-control and when you find yourself losing it find someone to talk to or whatever your therapy may be. Let’s be great and influential in this life and actually own the one thing we actually own and that’s our mind and body.
Character is the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. I wanted to start with the definition of character so that you have an idea of where this post is heading. I was once lost in the fact that I thought character and reputation were basically the same, but boy was I wrong. Your character is who you are, while your reputation is what others think you are. Being concerned with your character should be your only concern when the two are in discussion. Your character takes years to build and a reputation can happen overnight. The one great thing of the two is that you have full control of your character and what you take into your life. I know that many people judge others and make comments about their character, but don’t understand that they are judging a reputation. Kanye West is a person that I have heard many comments about and believe me they are not nice comments. He has a reputation of being overly outspoken, egotistical, arrogant, rude, inconsiderate, and the list of names goes on and on. People apply labels to individuals but don’t have a clue of who they are internally. The real question and only question should be “WHO AM I?” and not “WHO IS KANYE?”, only he knows that.
I find those questions amazing because a person is so quick to tell you who you are but doesn’t have a damn clue of who they are. The fear of discovering self seems to be a scary thing for most today. The world has given us soooo many things to mask our “character” (reputation) with and of course we all like to play dress up. Halloween is an all year holiday for most and the masks and costumes are getting scarier and scarier. How many people do you see on social media platforms that look like life is GRAND and that they are the happiest people on the face of the planet? Most that I have seen on social media since I have rejoined this year make life look like a piece of cake. You also have some that just need all the sympathy in the world and life is killing them slowly. They are working hard on building a great reputation instead of character. Social media, the media, our peers, and technology have stopped the character building process. The masses are living and existing on their reputation and are mighty fine by just that. I am here to let you know that the people that have given you this reputation could give a damn about your character, and guess who lives with that character? HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! You will live with that character day in and day out, while your reputation builders aren’t concerned with that part of you. The most common answers to questions about someone’s character are “I don’t know” or “I haven’t thought about it”. You, have to take time out to figure these things out or you will die not knowing who you are or having a makeup of yourself.
How do you build character and why do you need to build character? Building character comes over time with discovery, travel, human interaction, and learning. Character is not made over night and it takes you to pay attention and be honest with yourself. Yes, there are people that LIE to themselves. Amazing isn’t it? Honesty will form your morals, and integrity. This is the stuff that you work on when no one is looking and the things that get rewarded in life. There is nothing better than being a walking truth. Knowing that you are completely honest with yourself and your moral bank is over flowing in life brings joy and happiness. Regardless if you live the truth or not, the truth ALWAYS comes out and reveals itself. We are all meant to be different and live to our own standards. Don’t let someone create your character for you and don’t let anyone defeat your character. You are the only CEO of that company (character) and you should treat it as a fortune 500 company. This means don’t let anyone take it from you and don’t compromise yourself for profit. Your self worth has to be worth billions before you can make thousands. Be great and vulnerable enough to discover yourself.
Written By Ronald Anthony Wilson.
This post is not to define the subject and will not contain many facts. These are my thoughts, and it’s just that simple for me. What in the hell is religion and why does it exist? I see the good in it and I definitely see the bad in it as well. Over the years I have grown less and less religious. I am not an atheist…… well at least I don’t think so. I have been trying to make sense of religion and the beliefs that come with it. 84% of the world’s population is affiliated with one of the five largest religions, namely Christianity, Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism or forms of folk religion. How in the hell is this stat possible with all the senseless killings and or dumb shit that goes on with people? I honestly think religion is something to divide us and categorize us as a people. I have asked many people why they are in the religion that they currently practice. The majority say it is because that’s the religion they were raised to follow. WTF!!! So you just followed what was in your face? You didn’t even research what you were practicing and believing in? So almost 84% of the population doesn’t even know why they follow a religion or what it even embodies? WOW!!
So I asked someone “Why is being a Christian better than being a Muslim”? The person said “it’s because Muslims kill and bomb others in the name of Allah” I busted out in laughter. So the Christian kid that walked in the church in Carolina and killed a bunch of innocent people is not the same situation? The point I wanted to make is that there is no religion better than the other and religion seems to separate and confuse people more than race. if it isn’t a race issue it’s definitely a religious issue in this world. Religion has caused murders, hate, prejudice, and judgement. Religion has boggled the minds of many and clouded the judgement of what’s really right and wrong. Religious leaders have private jets but you belong to the church and had to take public transportation to the church to give money for tithing. Catholics don’t allow you to divorce, Jehovah witnesses can’t have blood transfusions, Muslim women wear a Niqab or Hijab. Why doesn’t the pastor give his house to the less fortunate or sacrifice more? Why would you discourage someone from leaving a toxic marriage? You would rather die than receive a transfusion to live? Why would you cover a woman and make them look and feel less than? None of those things are fair or just to the people following those religions mentioned. Why would you want to be treated unfairly or be limited to what you can and can’t do in this life?
I believe in God but will never follow a religion. Religion is meant for good and a lot of good comes from it. I like to be able to think for myself and not have a book or some made up rules guide my life. Do what YOU want to do and believe in what you want to, but at least believe in something that you took the time out to understand and research. Stop just going with things and not asking questions as to what you’re following and where its leading you. Religion will stop you from meeting amazing people, traveling the world, and discovering who you are. If you are religious, I am not here to judge you or tell you not be part of a religion. I am here to tell you to be religious for more than tradition and history. I ask you to be religious to help your fellow man. Join a religious group for more than the “after life” when you are doing nothing for your current life. Stop going to church because it’s the “right” thing to do and go because you are fulfilled and inspired to be great and go far in life. I beg of you to STOP BEING FOLLOWERS AND BECOME LEADERS!!!!
Written By: Ronald Anthony Wilson.
I would first like to start by saying I absolutely despise the word “reality” and what it represents for most. This word cripples so many people with growth and change in life. “This is reality not some dream!”, “Not in the REAL world”, and “Back to REALITY” are just some of the phrases that deter and halt most people from living their dream. Dreams can come true and they do come true for some. I have seen with my own eyes that dreams can become reality. It doesn’t happen for most but there is a reason for that. Negativity and obstacles in life should never stop you from pursuing your dream. One thing that you will have to do to obtain your dream and escape the negativity of “reality” is become selfish. Oh yeah SELFISH, and I mean totally invest in yourself and not let anyone make you feel bad for doing so. There is no way in hell you can be totally happy and give unto anyone else until you give unto yourself. This selfishness consists of totally discovering your likes, dislikes, wants, desires, and passions.
You should apologize to your loved ones ahead of time for your absence in their lives. Tragic events are the only instances that overtake your selfish time and nothing else. No one will understand this and think you are being rude and inconsiderate for not including them in YOUR decision making. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I have to laugh at that because people miss the key word in that last sentence and that word is “YOUR”. The word is written in CAPS for a reason people. How can a person know who they are if most decisions have influence? Parents, let go and let your parenting work. Friends, give them some time. Your shambled life will still be there when he or she is done. There will be no advice to a significant other because a relationship shouldn’t be in the picture until you are finished discovering yourself. I am sorry to let you know but you will be spending time alone with your own thoughts. This selfish part really never ends it just eases up over time. The best part about it easing up is you now get to create your reality in your life.
It is time you pursue your dreams and passions. You should be going after your career or pursuing whatever it is you’ve discovered you have a passion for. You can now know what you want in a mate, and that’s physically and mentally. You can now pick your own religion, style of clothing, place you want to live and so on. Your reality will be amazing because all things you do and will be involved in will be what you want to do. Your happiness will be an inspiration to some and an irritant to some others. HAHAHAHAHAHA!! That laughter is for the irritated others. It is time to rule your world and your reality. Society and your friends and family has no say in your life. I have really invested in myself and I am loving who I am becoming and where my life is headed. I am writing post for a blog that is mine and I don’t get paid for it. This is not the Ron that others have experienced but it’s the “Ron” that “Ron” has discovered. This is amazing because I have never been happier. Create your reality and live it proudly.
Written by: Ronald Anthony Wilson
I know you see the title and wonder, “what in the hell could this guy be talking about”. I could have used many other titles, but I feel this best suits what I want to discuss in this post. There are many people that have discussed a “zombie apocalypse”, but not knowing that they are actually already in the “zombie apocalypse”. The zombies are the people that you interact with on a daily basis. The person you spoke with that is planning to retire at 65 and doesn’t think it’s possible before the age of 65, The person who has never questioned “tradition” and why it is they follow “tradition”. The human being that has never taken any risks or changed anything in their lives, and uses words like normal, perfect, abnormal, and imperfect in reference to other human beings. Some of the things that I mentioned are fine by the person that speaks or lives in that life but being a follower isn’t for all. I can say from my experience that most of the individuals are satisfied because they have been zombified by a societal way of thinking and living. A zombie apocalypse is scary and it is current. You have been in the apocalypse since birth and you think it’s just the “norm” for life. You are scared to do as you feel and live as you think and now you are part of the apocalypse and not living your own life.
So I know you’re thinking, “how do I prepare myself if attacked by a zombie and how do I rescue a zombie if I have an encounter with one”. The keys and most important things that you can do is THINK, QUESTION, and become FEARLESS. Thinking occurs when you exercise that thing covered and well protected by your skull. I will not mention the name of it because I want you to use it. You exercise this with reading, talking with positive individuals, and removing FEAR from your mind and that happens after you read and have conversations with positive individuals. You will have to question most things that you are doing in your life and with your life. The questions you ask will have you dig deep in your soul to find the answers. I invite you to embrace these questions and hopefully come to a conclusion of your own. You may ask “why am I in my career and I am not passionate about it”, “why do I practice this religion”, “what is my purpose or who in the hell am I”?
The scary part is the honesty that comes with the answers and how open you will be to these answers. I say that they may be scary because you may discover that you have been living a lie and not living for your life and your beliefs. The research and soul searching will bring change and that is when you need to become fearless. Your evolution relies on you removing FEAR from your life. Removing the fear of failure, fear of change, and the fear of success will help you to take that leap of faith towards your HAPPINESS. You will not be able to talk to or spend time with zombies that are not subject to these behaviors. This gives you the freedom to think for yourself and not be influenced by others and their zombie thoughts.
You can break out of your zombie ways regardless of age, race, or weight. So I ask you to ask yourself questions in regards to things that you are doing in your life. If you are full of joy and happiness and every aspect of life is amazing, then this does not apply to you. You have total control over your thoughts and what you are currently doing right now. Reality is yours, not what someone tells you it is. Now I dare you to go and create your own reality and then inspire someone else to make reality what they want it to be. Arm yourself with knowledge of self and security of self and zombies don’t have a chance at capturing you again. In arming yourself with these weapons you can also rescue the walking dead (zombies) as well. Be great and become a leader of your world and not a follower. Question the “norm” and push yourself outside of the box.
Written by: Ronald Anthony Wilson